- 5 years ago
I am soooo happy. This is my first Valentine’s day engaged to my Fiance. This is our 6th valentine’s day. I mean, that’s amazing to me! We’ve made it work for 6 whole years and as young as we are I think some people assume were settling. I’m really excited about our future together, but recently we’ve been getting some less than pleasent responses to our engagement.
I love my Man, he is so amazing to me! He’s caring and he’s very sensitive to my needs. He’s always available to talk to even when things are crazy for him. He makes time for me and he never goes to bed without calling to say goodnight. I do the same for him, we just know what the other person needs and there’s never any hesitation.
Friends of ours just casually pointed out some personal deciscions weve made and decided to use them as reasons as to why we arent ready for marriage. I don’t care what they say, it’s not about them, but it hurts me to know they feel the way they do. here’s some things they’ve mentioned:
he didn’t propose with a ring, he must not be financially ready. – so what? we were in newyork, it was last minute. He still managed to call my Dad and ask for permission. Now I get to pick my ring out myself.
He’s still in college after 5 years, he’s procrastinating and seems lazy – he’s getting a degree in english with a focus in education. Teaching programs are grueling and he’s doing amazing, thats not your business anyways.
We don’t live together – we’re both still in college and our parents are nlce enough to give us free rooms. We’re saving money.. some people want to get out there and start living together right away, but financially that’s our decision.
Those are the big things. But, my feelings are really hurt. We are so happy together and we’re really in love. We’re not settling. I know all that matters is what we want, but with friends who say things like that, it just makes me feel so mad. Not to mention my bridesmaids are hardly involved. I know our weddings a year away, but they couldnt make it to our engagment party even with 2 months notice. I wish I felt like a bride, not like someone whos trying to fit in.
Anyways, it was just a vent and if anyone even made it this far I commend you. 🙂