(Closed) venting….

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I can understand your POV. I wouldn’t like it if anyone took advantage of my Fiance. However, I do believe that this is a problem that your Fiance needs to take care of. You don’t want to be the type of step mother that divides your Fiance from his kids. Can you imagine how devastating it would be for your Fiance if he had to choose between you or his children? They’ve had a relationship with him for 20 something years. You can’t just come in and set things straight even after marriage. That’s just the relationship they have with their dad. He and the other family members are who she relies on when things get rough.

At the same time try to understand a father’s heart. How can you make your kids pay for food if you guys are eating out? To a father their daughters will always remain his baby girls. They’re his flesh and blood. Once you two are married they’re your children too even if they’re in their 20s. You can’t kick them to the curb to teach them a lesson. Just because they’re saving doesn’t mean they can’t go out. If all the family members are giving them money you have to let it go. They’re all family. That’s what certain families do for each other. 

From my pov you’re just stressing yourself out. Just don’t let them take advantage of YOU. That’s the only thing you can do. With everyone else in the family that’s giving them money, that’s their prerogative. You’re not losing out. Right?

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