Post # 1
Just a vent to get it off my chest. I AM STRESSED! I’m getting married two weeks from tomorrow. However, I’ve just started a new job where I’m playing catch up, working long hours, and is physically and emotionally draining. On top of that I’m getting sick. I’m taking all the vitamins and trying to rest up but there’s just no time to rest. Not to mention no time to do anything wedding related. I’m also a bit sad that these last two weeks are going to be so stressful instead of exciting. I guess I will appreciate the honeymoon that much more. I just feel sooooo overwhelemed. Everyone keeps telling me that it will be alright and I know it will but I find myself getting short with those around me. All my patience is used up at work and there is literally nothing left of me when I get home. How do I balance it all?
Post # 3
Breathe! I’m sorry it’s so crazy for you and let me add to the chorus of “it’s going to be oks”.
Also, let me offer you this. Take ten minutes and sit someplace quiet and just focus on your breathing. In and out. Try to make each inhale and exhale the same length. When your mind starts to wander, just come back to breathing. Even say (in your head) IN and OUT in rhythm with you breath if it helps keep the focus on the breath.
Yes, I am suggesting you meditate, you would be amazed how refreshed you can feel after just ten minutes of quiet breathing. For me, it makes the difference between being a lovely human being and a raving lunatic 🙂
Sorry if this is too hippie-dippie or not your style, but I’m a yoga teacher and have been meditating for years and nothing has ever calmed me and made me feel refresed and focused like meditating does – even in small doses.
Post # 4
And then my Fiance just came home and told me that his best man is coming in for a wedding TONIGHT. Our house is a MESS, the spare bedroom is an earthquake of wedding things, I’m sick, stressed and I just don’t want someone in my house for 2 nights. Bottom line is I’m hysterically crying, I forgot to eat today, we just had to cancel our dance lesson, and I’m just so tired and literally sick.
Post # 5
Best man isn’t going to care about your house and won’t even notice the chaos. He’s a boy, boys don’t care or half the time even SEE the “mess” we stress about! I get not wanting him in your space, is there anywhere else he can stay?
Also, EAT. Eat and then go to bed and start again tomorrow, sometimes that’s all we can do. Whenever I got really stressed before our wedding I would just remind myself that it’s a wedding, not open heart surgery. No one is going to die if things don’t get done, you know? Really. There is nothing wrong with stepping away from it all and just letting go for a night, it will all be there when you are ready to face it again.
Self care is so, so important. Please take care of yourself!
Post # 6
I agree with ladyox — the best man won’t care about a mess. And you do need to make sure you get sleep and eat well, so that you can be healthy for your big day.
I understand the stress at work. It’s so hard not to take it out on our loved ones because we have to be professional during the day and can’t take out our frustration on others there. What’s worked for me when I feel myself getting to that point is to take a deep breath and ask myself if it’s really that person who’s upsetting me, or is it something from earlier in the day (this doesn’t always work … but I try). Also, sometimes when it’s really bad, I just explain that I’m exhausted and stressed to the max (to get it off my chest), and then try really hard to focus on enjoying my time with my Fiance or the conversation with my mom. I don’t know if you’ll find either of these helpful …
Maybe someone can help you with the last items so you don’t have to worry about them? I hope you feel better soon!!
Post # 7
@Treasure43: I’m in the same boat!!! I had a hysterical crying fit in my kitchen (alone) because I took the firdge apart to clean and couldn’t get it back together!! I was hyperventilating it was so bad!
I’ve been taking the dog for walks and starting back at the gym tomorrow. I’ve been also feeling like crap and missed my period last week due to stress.
Breathe! enjoy the process!!
Post # 8
Aww sweetie! *hugs* I get those stressed points. The key is to find a way to let of steam that’s healthy (ie. not eating a bag of oreos, even though that’s what you probably want to do). What do you normally do to de-stress? Bubble bath? yoga class? go for a run?
I had a bad day at work and recalled someone saying “punch a pillow” Well you know, I fluffed our couch pillows, lol it felt great!
You’re almost there hun! You can do it.
Post # 9
@spitfire229: I do a lot of bubble baths and reading. However, I’m just feeling kind of down and not at all excited about the wedding because I”m stressed and sick.