(Closed) Vent:Traveling through 3 states on Xmas and FMIL is still complaining

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
265 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sorry to hear it.  That sounds a bit ridiculous.  I mean really, once you hit adulthood good luck NOT having a bunch of holiday plans, especially if you attached to someone.   I don’t have to travel very far at all but still do the juggling thing and it is still exhausting.  Someday Fiance and I are going to just get a cabin that is buried in snow and cuddle up to a fire the whole holiday and see no one!  Sound fair?  Yeah, Future Mother-In-Law is selfish if she doesn’t even understand that you don’t get to see your family very long either.  Sorry about it!

Post # 4
46470 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We went through similar hassles in my first marriage- not travelling through three states but travelling from an island on the ferry, then hours of driving. We pleased no one including ourelves.

We finally said “enough is enough” and decided to stay home for Christmas. Everyone was welcome to join us. We visted out of town family at Thanksgiving.

Frankly I consider living one hour away to be almost the same as living in the same city as it takes that amount of time to drive anywhere in rush hour here.


Post # 5
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Last year Fiance was unemployed and we lived in the Midwest while both of our families live on the East coast. I spend almost 2K on flights for Thanksgiving for 1 week and Christmas for 2 weeks, which we split evenly between our 2 families who live 2.5 hours apart. We had to rent a car and drive back and forth a bunch and Future Mother-In-Law still bitched that we didn’t spend enough time with her. She was expecting me to drop Fiance off at the beginning of the vacation and then leave haha…I can’t wait until we have kids and can just make everyone travel to see us for Christmas…

Post # 6
1697 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

wow. sorry dear. Sounds like she will never be pleased. I consider myself my familiy’s black sheep ( and i say that proudly, i totally own it) and no matter WHAT my mom always gripes. It is like living in the twilight zone. Anyway, this year I said screw it and didnt go see her across the country. I used to travel 3 times a year from Cali to FL to see her. But after so much meaness and complaining and never pleasing her I said NO and it was the best decision I made. And I told her why too. It was her wake up call and she has gotten better as have I with her.

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