- 9 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
I have a similar story to this poor bride in this thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/noooooooooo-my-delaware-venue-is-now-a-no-go-budget-fail
The week of Thanksgiving, my fiance and I were so excited because we finally thought we had found a venue. We were given prices by the banquet manager, and we said yes, we want to book!!! OMFG, finally.
It wasn’t until after I followed up about getting the contract that this place came back to us and told us the price was now DOUBLE what she actually quoted us, AND because of our small group they wanted to instead put us in some crappy side-room instead of the room that they sold to us. So we, of course, backed out and told them what we thought of their business practice.
We have been engaged for 17 months so far. And for 17 months, we have been searching for a venue that (a) we like (going for something cozy and rustic that doesn’t look like a banquet hall) (b) will accomodate our small (25-30 guests) group and (c) that we could afford (budget for catering/alcohol and venue is roughly $4k, which I don’t think is unreasonable at all for 25-30 guests). This is apparently an impossible criteria for upstate New York.
So far, every place we have looked into we have gotten some variation of the following four answers:
Oh you want a wedding here? $2,000 – $3,000+ for site rental. And that includes nothing but your right to exist here for the 6 hours, everything else is extra.
You’re only having 25-30 guests? Sorry, we can only accomodate you if you have at least 50+ or 100+ guests.
If you want to book in the months of May-October, the minimum spending requirement is $10,000.
We can do it for your budget BUT… you have to (have this shitty room instead)(guarantee that all XX of our rooms are booked for the night/whole weekend).
I know I haven’t literally looked absolutely everywhere, but over 17 months I know I’ve certainly covered a heck of alot of ground! I’ve focused my search on a lot of out-of-the-box, non-wedding-factory places too.
I feel so deflated, so depressed and so unmotivated to keep trying. I’m so tired of wedding planning, and we haven’t even completed the first step yet!