Venue Dilemma with Parents

posted 1 year ago in Venue
Post # 2
861 posts
Busy bee

bluseye :  How bad would the fall out be if you told your parents that you were paying for the wedding yourselves and inviting who you wanted?

Otherwise it sounds like you’re just gonna have to suck it up and maybe compromise on the ceremony vs reception. For example get married where you want and then have the reception where they want.

Post # 3
6652 posts
Bee Keeper

Unfortunately, if you aren’t paying, they get A LOT of say. Especially if your venues don’t fit their guest count, you are really facing an uphill battle. 

You do have some choices!

Talk to them, and look at cutting the list down. Maybe you dont need to invite your cousins barber, but can keep the family butcher?

Find a different compromise – not a barn, not a banquet space. There must be some sort of light and bright place to hold a shit load of people?

Pay for your own wedding.

Post # 4
47190 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

My personal dream wedding would be in a beautiful inn on lake michigan with just my and his whole extended familiies (destination); and maybe a reception later at a central locale.

Have you discussed this idea with your parents? The two of you could pay for your own wedding (the one you want) and your parents could host a larger reception at a banquet hall.

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