Post # 1
So I am madly in love with a venue that we COULD afford if we picked the least expensive entrees, didn’t go all out for photographer, picked modest floral arrangements etc. The fiancee is also MADLY in love.
There is another venue we like a lot. Maybe we could even say we love it, but it is half the price. HALF! This means we could add a whole bunch of extras or take some of the rest of the money and oh I don’t know save some money.
We keep going back and forth – we will finally decide yes. we should do the place we love – once in a lifetime event. Let’s do the place we will be ecstatic with. Then we return to earth and realize that it is a wedding – do we want to spend all this money on just one day?
Did anyone else have any problems with this? Any advice to how to handle it? We are still shopping for more places but with 200 people guest list we have narrowed down our options considerable . . .
Post # 3
can you post pictures of the venues? I’d go with the one that if half the price since you still really like (maybe love) it.
Post # 4
I would go with the half price one too since a good photographer could make the pictures look wonderful. Plus then you could get better food (because that is the one thing that guests remember.
Post # 5
I don’t have personal pictures but these are the two sites. Gibbett Hill Grille is the one we love – you can’t see the best parts for some reason but they have this GORGEOUS large large large porch and a castle on the hill and everything is just so beautiful. The food is amazing too – 4 star restaurant.
Post # 6
We moved our reception 30 minutes away because it was 7000 less. This paid for the DJ, the church, my dress, my cake, flowers.. etc.
It was worth it to us to save the extra money & go with a hall we didin’t love…
Post # 7
wow- Gilbbet Hill looks amazing. I don’t know what to tell you anymore!
Post # 8
Half the price is quite significant. I checked out both of the links and think both are nice. Although the one that you and Fiance love is a little better in my opinion, I don’t believe it’s worth the price difference to go with that. You could be sacrificing a lot and there is a chance that you would not be able to stay in budget given all of the little surprises that come along.
My friend knows a girl that’s getting married around the same time as I am. In the city there are MANY beautiful and luxurious places to get married in that are very, very expensive. The girl and her Fiance loved one of these places and decided that they HAD to get married there, even though with their budget they’d be sacrificing A LOT to make it happen at bare bones. Just hearing about the wedding planning, many many struggles are coming along b/c they can’t really afford anything other than the venue and food… maybe not even alcohol. No nice floral bouquets, decorations, etc. The venue she chose is one that you have a $100k+ wedding in… or else you don’t rent it. You have to use their exclusive list of caterers and they have pkgs starting out at $300/person (just for food!) Her budget is much, much lower than $100k. Seeing that she can’t go “all out” the wedding won’t be as amazing as if could have if she’d chosen a cheaper venue that was still nice.
The moral of the story, be practical in your decisions. It’s okay to accept that you can’t have the most amazing thing for your wedding if you have to sacrifice other things that you want. The other place is nice as well and you will be happy no matter where you get married. 🙂
Post # 9
I know Jacqi see! I also didn’t mention that is where my Fiancee took my parents to ask permission to marry me!
Bunny- Luckily, I am not talking in the six digits for wedding costs, and we would not be too hard pressed I don’t think if we still went to GHG.
It comes down to – do I want some money toward buying a house or can I wait a few years instead. I think you all have good advice though – we should check out the less expensive one again and learn to fall in love with it. The place we get married will be the place we love the most right?
Post # 10
I’d go with the lesser expensive option. They’re both extremely beautiful and, I agree, Gibbett Hill seems to be a bit more “unique” look than Butternut Farm, but I don’t think that’s worth double the cost.
In the long run, I think you’ll be happier with being able to hire a better photographer and entertainment, have better food, alcohol, decor, etc than trying to stretch your budget for those things to cover a “unique” venue.
Post # 11
I would go with the less expensive option – add your personal touches and fill the space with people you love you and yes, because it’s the place you got married it will be incredibly special and you will LOVE it.
Post # 12
A point in favor of Butternut Farm… it looks like you get chivari chairs! (a small point, but that’s pretty cool! the ones at the other place aren’t bad, but not chivaris…)
Post # 13
I went all out for the venue I love (see my avatar) and I was glad, but it wasnt double the alternatives!
here is what I say- look at the room and go snap some pics of your own. then look aath them and decide from there! you might notice something shines in your pics that you missed before- often i notice this with carpet!
Post # 14
We had reserved a venue that was just a civic center. It would do but wasn’t WOW. We then found out about another venue that was much more us and what we were going for. The cheaper venue would have required a lot of decor etc and this venue doesn’t need a lot. I was willing to cut my decor budget in half in order to get this venue. It has made planning a lot easier knowing I can set a bud vase on the table and I would still be happy with decor because I love our venue so much.
Post # 15
Did you pick your place yet scour? I say go for the one you love.. totally agree with caszos… the venue can completely make the wedding and you can cut back in other areas like decor since the venue itself *is* the decor. Not like the golf club isn’t nice, but it would be a completely different feel and look to the wedding. Even though the gibbet hill site doesn’t have too many pictures, it looks ahhhmazing.. and the menu for 84/pp looks delish!! I say do it. The venue will just wow everyone and make your pictures and memories of the day incredible.
Ans budget wise, we chose our dream photog and venue first and made everything else fit in to the remaining budget. Nothing else will compare if the most important part of the day isn’t something you don’t love love love.. and you have plenty of time to look for less expensive options in other places!! Do it 🙂