- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I was hoping to get a bit of perspective on this.
Basically, my FI and I have found a very unique venue for our wedding/reception that is about 1 hour away from where my parents, grandmother, siblings, and a lot of my relatives live. It is a natural science museum, and in addition to a reasonably large reception space, the guests are welcome to explore the entire museum and the exhibits are kept on until the reception ends.
We are a quirky couple and we absolutely adore this one-of-a-kind wedding venue. However, when we returned from my visit, I went by my mother’s house and she looked very grave about it. When we talked about it, she was very upset about two points:
1) The venue is an hour away.
2) Because we have to wait for the museum to close, the wedding would have to be in the evening.
So, basically, my mom hates to travel and she is skitzing because the venue is an hour away. She also insists that because our family doesn’t have a lot of money it isn’t fair to have a wedding there because our local relatives would have to either leave early (bearing in mind that the wedding and reception would be from about 6-10PM) or get hotels.
While I understand her concerns, I guess it didn’t occur to me that a venue an hour from my hometown would be that big of a concern. My FI’s immediate family lives about an hour and a half from my hometown and a little less than that from the potential venue, with much of his family being located in Maryland and Tennessee (we’re in upstate NY).
I guess what I’m asking is if either of us is being unreasonable in this case. If it were a matter of it just being a simple banquet hall, it really wouldn’t be a big deal to either of us to just find a venue closer to home. However, there is no other venue like the one we visited in the area, so we would have to give up a lot in order to do that.
FI thinks she’s being ridiculous, since pretty much every other guest we’re inviting will have to travel farther than that, but she’s got me worried that a lot of my family won’t be able/willing to come to the wedding because of this. What do you Bees think?