- 6 years ago
- Wedding: February 2016
Let me start by saying I love planning but I am so stressed. Ok I am starting a new job and my fiance went back to school (almost done and he will have a job the second he graduates). None of that is stressful, we simply put the wedding on hold to be sensible and that wasn’t an issue because we hadn’t booked anything yet.
We have re-vamped our wedding a little bit, still traditional Greek Orthodox ceremony and Greek dancing (for the most part) at the reception. However we have changed the “theme” or tone I guess, instead of blue and gold we are going with either deep crimson OR deep plum with ivory and white. Lots of candles (everywhere tons of candles) and aside from bouquets the only flowers will be rose petals. We are going for a classic romantic wedding.
Here is where I am stressed, ok it is perfect that we share the same vision but bringing the vision to fruition is the problem. So many gorgeous venues that are historic or estates that fit are theme will not hold enough people. They max out at 120 TOPS and there is no way I can cut the list that much. I have decided to only give guests to married couples, engaged couples or “permanent” couples (I see the individual at all holidays and it is a matter of time before they are engaged). As of yet I do not have a finale count but lets put it this way without friends only counting IMMEDIATE close family the list is at 150. That is NOT near the finished list that is just to let you know how many ppl can not be cut be they are our parents, siblings, first cousins, aunt/uncle. We have very large families and the list is not finished but for argument sake lets call it 300.
There are atleast 4 beautiful venues that I can’t have because they accomadate 20-100ppl…100 if you squish so clearly my 300 won’t work. Then we have about 4 other gorgeous venues that will cost us 26k to feed everyone that is not even including the open bar or any other expense! And I hope people don’t take my fiance seriously because he has a habit of telling people they are invited, people we haven’t known that long just randomnly so I pray that when the OFFICIAL date is set thses people aren’t actually expecting an invite.
Bees who are claiming to have a wedding for 5 grand um how in hell did you do it? I am not expecting to be able to do it for 5k but I would like to know how or where to have the reception and not spend 25-40k (yes those are the estimates) on feeding people.
Are families are huge, we are traditional and I have made my peace (sort of) with the fact that I can’t have any of the gorgeous historic venues (estates,mansions) that I want because they won’t hold that many people. At the same time some gorgeous venues that will hold 300 cost a fortune AND in my opinion look generic. Sure all the pics in their gallary are beautiful but they all look the same like every other wedding.
Haven’t talked to my Fiance about it because I want him to be able to fully focus on finishing up his course. He is the only son so the wedding can’t look cheap but my God with the size of it a lot of venues can’t accomadate and the others are expensive as hell.
I know his parents will help no question about that but IDK how much because they want to focus on him finishing his course first before allocating money to the wedding. This I understand but I am in the planning process because I KNOW the second he is done he will want the wedding possibly moved up and weddings don’t plan themselves.
I know I am being sulky because I can’t have the venue I want and that makes me sad even though we do want to celebrate with family. Ugh I’m all over the place and most likely sound like a lunatic but IDK what to do. Can’t stress him out when he needs to focus but I don’t think he gets how much these venues are going to cost and I don’t see a way we can cut people. I want to scream. We want two kids before we are 35 and we want them 2 years apart, lets do the math that does not give us a ton of time to put off preperations (you know things need to be booked). Post-poning made sense and I am glad we did it but now we have to focus and I am freaking out.
Other than venue things are good, church is taken care of and free, the dress I want is only $800, the centerpieces I want are DIY and very simple, as I said I want mostly candles and rose petals. We are buying invitations but to hell with wedding programs and all that stuff people will just throw out. There are other expenses (videographer, cake, miscellanous, photographer, hair and make-up, bouquets, d.j and Greek band) but that doesn’t have me too concearned. It is the damn venue issue, I want a classic, romantic luminous feel to my wedding and for the hundreth time those locations are too small. The beautiful yet generic venues cost a fortune. What am I left with?! And at what point do I tell him we need to know how much his parents are helping? I was thinking wait until august when his course is done???
Thank you for reading sorry so long