Post # 1
I didn’t realize wedding planning would be so difficult until I started thinking about venues and realized Im without a clue. I came upon this site last year and now that I’m engaged I see that I need tremendous help and I’m hoping someone can offer me some venue advice.
In my mind I picture a small wedding, 50 guests at most, a daytime out door ceremony preferably on site of reception and reception in a room with lots of light, perhaps full wall of windows. Ive come across web sites with locations that meet my ideals in terms of site however all require a guest mininum far more that I wish to have. Here lies my dilemna.
Can anyone recommend a site that would meet my ideas and would be it too much to ask that it wont completely leave me in the poor house? I haven’t set a date, so im flexible with dates and locations, from new york, outer boroughs or new jersey north and south.
Thank you to anyone reading my far too long a first post!
Post # 3
Have you considered doing it at a restaurant that has outdoor dining for the outdoor ceremony portion?
Unfortunately I don’t really have much in terms of recommendations.
Post # 4
Maybe a large cabin somwhere would work – all you’d need is to rent a caterer. Family and friends can rent their own cottage closeby and it can be a special weekend thing.
I wanted a small wedding too and found that all the “wedding venues” required a minimum. My idea was to find a pretty, non-wedding venue and just pay for a caterer. Though in the end, we opted for something private, I found the most romantic places when I looked outside the scope of traditional wedding venues.
Post # 5
One venue that may work is the Setauket Neighborhood House, near the Stony Brook LIRR stop. It’s right across the street from a duck pond and near other green space, so an outdoor wedding could be feasible. I think the venue itself is $500 to rent and includes tables/chairs. They only allow beer/wine (no hard liquor) but you can BYO. I had my bat mitzvah there many moons ago and it’s an affordable space that’s historic.
Post # 6
I am a Long Island bride and I had the same dilemna as you. With under 50 guests, I could not even meet the minimum at most of the smaller places and I was set on a one party at a time, outdoor on-site ceremony, on a Saturday evening in the summer. Sounds impossible right? But I found my perfect venue in the Hudson Valley at a B&B near Poughkeepsie. I got everything I wanted (which would have been impossible on the island) for a pretty decent price. And I am far happier that I looked there rather than settling on a local place where I would not really have the wedding I wanted. You might consider this is you are willing to travel a little bit off the island. You will find much more flexibility, better prices and much more natural beauty.
Since you do have have a 50 guest count and would like a day-time wedding there are a number of halls on the island that would accomodate you. Look into Bridgeview Yacht Club, Sayville Country Club. The Thatched Cottage, Smithtown Landing Country Club and George Washington Manor. All of these places have low minimum for day weddings and outdoor ceremonies. You can also post on liweddings message boards and the girls there can give you lots of ideas.