Post # 1
We found a place we love, it has a lot of things we have been looking for, but it is 4,000 dollars, plus the cost for renting chairs and tables and all that other stuff. Is it really truly worth spending that much money for one day? It is available 9am-12am, which we wouldn’t even be there that long.
Is it a waste of money? My boyfriend feels like we could spend the money on a great honeymoon that we can enjoy longer then one day and a few hours. I am kind of torn. Because yes, he has a valid point and I feel the same way. But my cousin who recently got married, said its worth it. She said its one day, that money shouldn’t matter. And because it is technically only supposed to happen once, its worth spending the money on something ideal if not close to your “dream” wedding.
I am really not sure what I think. What did you do? Is it actually worth spending that type of money on a place, plus all the money you will be spending on everything else? I don’t want to waste money, but I also don’t want to see it as a waste. My cousin said to let my parents pay for it if that is what they want to do. Our money wouldn’t be going into it all. But that’s just not the point for me. But I also don’t want to get married at the beach, or some park.
I really dont know. Need opinions, things you wish you didn’t do and things you wish you did for your day.
I know some are spending more, but I need some that aren’t extremely wealthy, and or their families (bride and groom) aren’t either.
Post # 2
For just an empty room? Unless it is in an incredible location and absolutely beautiful, no way. I am cheap but there is no way I would spend that on just the room.
Post # 3
How does the venue cost compare to others in your area? Unless it’s a super fancy place in a beautiful location, it seems pretty steep to me, especially since you still have to pay for the chairs, etc. You might be able to find another venue that you love that costs less.
Post # 4
Keep looking for a better deal. When we were planning we found lots of beautiful venues for the whole day with tables chairs linen and dishes for 1/2 of what you were quoted.
Post # 5
It depends on where you are. In New York City, this would be a great deal. Pretty much anywhere else, I think you could probably do better. Why not keep looking?
Post # 6
PPs – Seriously? I don’t live in NYC, I live in Austin, Texas and $4K is on the low end of what I’ve been finding (although they almost all come with tables, chairs and some linens).
I felt like this was normal..where are y’all located that $4K is high?
Post # 7
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Worth is a relative term. What may be worth it to someone else may not be worth it to you. I’d say start the search over. Decide what your budget is first and nail that down. Once you do that, you’ll be able to keep your search within a range you feel comfortable with.
Post # 8
what kind of venue is it? Does anything come with it?
Post # 9
My wedding is in San Diego and our venue rental is $5500 just for the space. Bigger cities are going to have much higher rental rates, especially if it is in a great location. Part of the reason ours was so expensive? It’s downtown, 15th floor, and overlooks Petco Park, the Coronado bridge, and the water.
We found some cheaper venues, but we ultimately decided that since it was a destination wedding, we wanted the amazing view. It’s up to what it is worth to you and Fiance. Also, public or city places tend to have cheaper rental costs….parks, museums, libraries, it depends.
Post # 10
Depends if its in your budget or not, which it doesn’t sound like it is so keep looking. Our venue space was $1300 (12pm-1am rental), and didn’t include anything. Our total rentals cost was around $1000 but it was a bit of a headache to bring everything in ourselves.
Post # 11
I haven’t done much searching, but when talking to my parents my dad mentioned my mom knows someone with a big ranch and she may be able to get a discount. Due to my parents not knowing that I know about my boyfriend proposing, I did research on my own on the place and this was a quote to me, without them knowing they know my mom.
This is one of the links to the venue. They also have a Facebook, which has tons of pictures. Cypress M Ranch, it is in Florida and just up the road from my parents house. We wanted to do it at my parents house due to it being in the country, having a big area and it being free but they are putting the house up for sale at the end of December and we won’t be able to have it there.
This place offers many things and many locations within the property for different type of wedding set up. They also offer horses and horse back rides. Help with parking and setting up and also taking down and keeping things together and running smoothly during the wedding. I found it kind of far fetched that they offer so much, but we still have a separate payment for chairs and tables and whatever else we may need.
Truth be told, I honestly don’t know what to look for, or where to start when searching. I truly didn’t know this was considered a huge amount to pay. Maybe you guys could look at it and let me know if it is still pretty insane. It just seems like massive package deal, outside of the chairs and tables and food and music and what not.
Post # 12
Also, with no one else knowing I know about the upcoming proposal, I really don’t know what my budget is as of right now. I will know more afterwards in December.
Post # 13
Your cousin, who is putting these ideas in your head, sounds a little selfish, if you ask me. Or maybe self-absorbed is a better word. Yes it’s one day and it should be a great day. But things can be beautiful without costing two house payments or four months rent. Maybe if you were getting tables and chairs, but to have all that stuff be added in on top of the venue? Speakers as well? Catering?
To have someone tell me ‘who cares’ because it’s someone’s else’s money says to me that they don’t really understand money at all. Naive about life. If your parents are longing to spend that money on you, swell, but my personal opinion is that you should keep looking for something either cheaper or more inclusive, and you should stop listening to your cousin before she helps you go over the top with everything.
Post # 14
Honestly, I don’t think you can make this decision without knowing your budget. After that, catering + venue rental cost should be about 40-50% of your total budget. It might not be a bad idea to start thinking of what type of catering you would like and get some price quotes from local ones as well, to know how much that would cost in addition to the venue. That way, if catering + $4k rental + table and chair rentals (also get some quotes for this) is more than 50% of your budget, then you know this is too expensive.
To determine your budget, you should figure out how much you and your FH can save between now and then (also be prepared to pay a lot upfront in deposits), and if anyone else will be contributing, and what those contributions will be.
Post # 15
A few things:
1. You can’t look at venues without knowing your budget, or target guest list for that matter. You could be looking at a 4k venue, but if it doesn’t fit your budget or holds too few/too many people, you won’t be able to use it anyway. Sit down with your bf and discuss these things, you don’t need a ring on your finger to do that (unless he doesn’t want to until after the proposal, then you will just have to be patient).
2. You almost always get better value going with an all-inclusive venue, one that provides the location, linens, tables, chairs, food, booze, etc. Think about it this way: an all-inclusive venue has those items in their inventory, and passes off part of the cost to their couples, but the majority of their profits is the food and booze. Rental companies make their profits ONLY on tables, chairs, etc. so the price is comparitively higher. Plus, pulling everything together is much more stressful. Just keep this in mind as you begin to plan. I originally wanted to go with the blank venue route and arrange everything myself, but it was just going to be way too expensive.
3. As far as spending money on your dream day, this is going again to depend on budget and your financial situation, AND your priorities as a couple. Some people spend a lot of money on their big day, because have a huge or expensive wedding is really important to them, to the point where they even might forgo a honeymoon for a while for it. Some people just want to have a great party with people they love, and don’t mind doing the awesome BBQ buffet at $20pp. No one can tell you if its worth it or not, but just make sure you aren’t spending money you don’t have.