Post # 1
we meet with our venue to finalize everything for the wedding and to make the final payment. we meet with the owners son and he was clearly buzzed or under the influence of something. he was taking notes and writting everything down but his speech was slurred and a few time he moved in his chair and he looked like he was going to fall over and dropped his phone and some folders a few times. We are worried about this and dont know if we should mention anything to the owner since its his son. It was very unprofessional on his part. i do know that we are having a different matri-d and that the servers are great, we were there for a party about a year ago.
so when it came to the final calculation he made and error in our favor. our final total was $7850 minus out deposit of 3500. so we should have paid 4350 but he only charged us 3850 and he wrote paid in full. He calculated 3 times so obviously its his error and most likely because he was drunk. So my question is should i
*mention this to them and pay it
*let it go and pay only if he brings it up
*if he brings it up not pay since he put paid in full and its his error.
Post # 2
If you have a receipt/documentation that shows that you paid what he requested from you, then I would not address it until they do–if it were me in reality, I would probably pay pretending I didn’t notice the error if someone does point it out, even though I think that you should not pay given it was his error!
Post # 3
While it’s probably not the most honest way to go about things, I would not point out their miscalculation.
I would however mention to the owner that the son appeared to be under the influence. While it resulted in an error in your favor this time, I would be concerned about more detrimental errors in the future and/or unprofessionalism in managing/coordinating your event.
Post # 4
I’d point it out. The guilt would gnaw at me and I’m a firm believer that karma’s a bitch and what goes around comes around.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t say anything, I guess thats the silver lining with dealing with someone who is mostly intoixicated at work though.
Post # 6
agreed..it’d bug me too much. I wish I could say ignore it because an extra $600 is awesome.. But I hate feeling like I’m treating someone unfairly and would be extra bothered if that was associated with my wedding.
ETA: definitely mention the full circumstances and how inappropriate it is that you had to do business with an obviously intoxicated person. They might offer to let you keep the difference, which then I’d consider it totally kosher to keep the money (I know, i have a wierd morality system, lol)
Post # 7
Don’t you just hate it when your ethics are actually tested?
Post # 8
Why is this even a question? You should do the honest thing and point it out. Everyone makes mistakes and I’d imagine you would be upset if you made one that cost you $500.
Post # 9
You should definitely address with the owners that you had to do business with their son while he appeared to be under the influence – it may in fact be that he has some strange medical issue or something. As a PP said, this worked in your favour this time, but if it was drink or drugs, or could mean that they’re this unprofessional on the day, too.
Post # 10
I don’t think that makes your ethics weird at all! In the OP’s shoe, I would do exactly what you’re suggesting: tell the venue but discuss the inappropriateness of the circumstances. I would be perfectly fine with them waiving the extra due to the mistake, but I wouldn’t be okay with just taking it. I realized last night that Dollar Tree didn’t ring up one of my items, and even that knaws at me!
Post # 11
Honesty is not just mere words but it is about character, what you do and say when others are not looking is true character. As was said previously everyone make mistakes, whether a $600 dollar mistake or a $1 dollar mistake , the money does not belong to you.
Post # 12
I think I’d contact the venue, but play innocent and “confirm” that you are all paid up, since the total was different than you expected. The venue may decide the waive the difference, since it was their error, but I’d sleep better knowing I at least told them.
Post # 13
I would definitely let them know about the price discrepancy. wouldn’t you do that if they overcharged? It’s the honest thing to do
Post # 14
I feel exactly the same way.
OP – I would let the owners know. I believe in putting good things out there, you will get it back one day by doing the right thing.
Post # 15
You bees are much more honest than I am! Not even going to pretend I’d flag that up. Sorry.