Post # 1
So I had my first trip back to our venue after choosing and putting down the deposit back in Febuary. After looking around a second time, I realized that I am really not as in love with it as I thought. I noticed sooo many imperfections from the size of the ballroom to the carpet. I was almsot in tears while discussing wedding details with my coordinator.
My Fiance LOVES this place but it just seems like it is going to be so cramped. The ballroom literally looks half the size that I remembered. It’s suppose to fit 200 people and we are only having 150 so why why why does it look like only 80 people can fit inside this room! UGH! Why didn’t I notice this before. Was I really THAT excited that all of the details that are bugging me now didn’t stand out to me before?
I am halfway through the contract and have paid for over 70% of the balance so it’s too late to change now. Just wondering if any one else has ever gone through this? Did it bug you on your big day or did you just suck it up and make it work?
Post # 3
@MrsRedPumps: I didn’t have venue regret myself but my advice is to just keep planning and give yourself a chance to fall back in love with the place! Probably you are just noticing all these little things because now it’s not just your venue in theory, it’s for real.
If your Fiance loves it I bet it is a great place. On the big day I didn’t really notice too much about our venues (and they were a beautiful church and beautiful turn of the century ballroom!) I was up in the clouds and you will be too.
Post # 4
@Magdalena: I am truly hoping that happens as I really did love it initally. I think the big issue is that when we toured, we viewed the entire ballroom which holds 300 people. They have a sliding door to separate that same room, One side holds 150 and the other holds 200. We never had a chance to see what the room looks like with the sliding wall closed. They were prepping for a wedding tomorrow with my same guest count so I acutally had to see what it looks like and now that I have……I just don’t know. Actually pretty bummed and have been thinking about it all day.
I will just continue planning as we are in no financial position to be losing money, especially not a $2500 deposit so….we shall see! Thanks for the encouraging words!!
ETA: I should clear up a quick thing. Of course it would be half of what I remembered because IT IS half of what I remembered lol. I just meant that it’s smaller than I ENVISIONED it looking with the wall closed.
Post # 5
None yet. My bm actually showed me a veue this weekend that would have been perfect had I seen it first (huge outdoor space and gardens and about $100 cheaper). But even though I haven’t seen this other venue in person, I am still in love with mine. I did hesitate to book my venue at first because it has no outdoor space, except for the parking lot and then right in front (on the same property) is an apartment building, so no scenic views. But the inside space is gorgeous and pretty big.
Keep on planning and try to envision your decorations and guests in the space. That might help you fall back in love with it.
Post # 6
If it helps, I wouldn’t say I had venue regret, but I did have second guesses. When I was talking with the coordinator I just kept thinking that I needed to do more, MORE MORE things to make it look like more than a barren glass enclosure (I got married in a garden pavilion…but with out the garden part). I ended up just trusting my gut and went ahead with everything and I am so glad I did! It ended up looking amazing!
My venue before decorations
Venue on my wedding day. Yes I could’ve used more things, but from what I hear every one thought it was beautiful…and if they didn’t think so I at least did.
Post # 7
@MrsRedPumps: I think you’ll be just fine. A party feels a lot livelier if you have a smaller, nearly-full room compared with a more spacious room that can end up feeling a little dead and empty.
I have venue regret of a different nature. Unbeknownst to Fiance and me, my mom did some scouting of more upscale venues than what we were looking into. She found one that she was really excited about, that was surprisingly affordable, and begged us to have it there. Since she is footing a big chunk of the bill for the reception, we agreed.
We like the venue itself, for the most part. It’s a really nice hotel, a gorgeous location, everyone I’ve talked to about it has raved about their food – I’m confident that it’s going to be a very nice reception. My regret, though, is that by going with this venue we are locked into working with their event coordinator, and I just find her to be really unprofessional. She is flaky, abrupt, a little bit abrasive, impatient, and she comes off as frivolous. We just have incompatible communication styles, I guess, but Fiance and I agreed that if we had met her beforehand, we would have really tried to talk my mom out of her enthusiasm. *sigh*
Post # 8
@Hippos: That is gorgeous!
@MrsRedPumps: Take a deep breath, its going to be alright! You’re wedding is going to be fabulous and you’re stressing about silly little things! You’re getting MARRIED! 😀
Post # 9
@Hippos: OMG that is GORGEOUS! I think you did a fantastic job with the decor. It looks so bright and alive in your space.
Post # 10
@Miss T-Rex: Ya know, you’re right. My Fiance says that I just had a bout of “cold feet” (regarding the venue that is)
I have continued with my planning and just crossing fingers that things will work out fine.