(Closed) Venue Regret-Vent

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am sorry you are dealing with that 🙁 , I went through something like that at first when I started looking for venues and I liked NOTHING because of the colors that were used for carpets, chairs..etc. After sometime I found the perfect venue and its an hour away from the ceremony, but since we are having a small wedding and most of them are close family , we decided to go with it.


Have you put a deposit down on the venue? Also , have you thought of having a Friday wedding instead? We are having a Friday wedding and we were able to find a great venue with no restrictions to minumum amount of guests.

I would like to see pictures to be able to help more. I think if you have booked the venue already..then try to work with the colors at the venue.

Post # 5
3620 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Where are you located?

Post # 6
374 posts
Helper bee

First call the venue and find out what their cancellation costs are.  Don’t ask your mom right now for the contract.  If they say they keep the deposit, ask if you can go see a wedding or function all set up.  Sometimes seeing the table clothes and pretty flowers really changes perspective.

If you have an attorney friend, ask him/her to review the contract and see if there is a loop hole that you can get out of.

If not, chalk it up to pre wedding jitters and insecurities and continue to go forward w/the venue you booked.

Go with the smaller number of people if that’s what you really want, and add late night snacks and other things to bring it up to the minimum; or ask if you can do a brunch there; or rehearsal dinner there to equal the amount they want you to spend.

You could serve your bridal party sandwiches or a small buffet before the wedding if you do your photos there first, and it’s close to the church, if that helps you spend money.

I think your decision to cut your list is because you are not really happy w/the place and it is a way around having your reception there.

Regarding the colors, you may have to forgo the purple and keep that color for the church flowers.  I think the hall would do fine with white chair covers, white and red flowers with pretty greens, white table cloth and napkins.  The curtains won’t look so bad when the room is filled with people, tables, linen, flowers.

Or go with the red chairs and spend money on lavish center pieces with crystals and bling with red roses.  You can still use white linen.

If you are really stressed, call someone you know who is an artist or someone who has a sewing hobby.  These kind of personalities are able to envision things we cannot.  You can even take out books from the library on table decorating and if there are names at the back of the book call one of the decorators and ask them ‘a quick question.’  People are usually happy to help out and give you an opinion over the phone.

Be happy, smile, radiant inside and out.  No one will notice.  I promise.


Rethink what were the points that sold you on the place in the beginning?  Try to hold onto those thoughts.

Is there something else bothering you and you are focusing on the venue?

Post # 8
374 posts
Helper bee

I think if that is the case, you should try to cut your losses and find someplace that ‘speaks to you.’  If you can afford it, and you can’t think of another way to spend this money, do what you prefer.

Still, before making a final decision, go look at the venue ‘dressed up’ for another function.

Keep in touch.

Post # 9
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

post photos so we can “oooo” and “awww” for you!

Post # 10
6 posts

Your mom said she was tired of looking places? Did she give you options of what you could choose? I’m going to guess that it can’t be that bad, if your mom liked it?

I agree with Meowerson, post some pics so we can see what you’re talking about. I’m guessing it’s probably not as bad as you think it is.

Post # 11
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011


Like others said contact the venue and see if you can get any refund back. However, I think if you have pictures to share with us , that would be great. No matter what the colors the venue has, you can still make it work! You dont have to use a lot of decorations if you work with the same colors they have. However, if you can afford to get a different venue , then do that 🙂

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