(Closed) Venue Search Is So Upsetting.

posted 6 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

I think every bride goes through this, the venue really is the largest expense and naturally a lot of stress follows that expenditure…it’s hard to fall in love with an empty room regardless of it’s charms, but it’s kind of like house hunting…you have to look at the potential and stop looking at it’s face value….there’s just so much more to a venue that it’s four walls, because any place can become charming and lovely with the right  lighting and decor.  If it were me I would focus on value, service and the staff, because if they’re on their toes, that’s what makes or breaks a reception.  Oh, that and bathrooms, not enough turns into a serious thing, every time.

Post # 5
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Have you tried posting on your local boards for suggestions of places to checkout? And maybe you could re-visit your priority list to establish just how important the venue is to you. If it’s on the top of the list, maybe you need to adjust your venue budget. But if it’s pretty far down on the list, maybe you should think about adjusting your expectations to be more in line with what your budget will allow.

Post # 7
182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I want to offer up a virtual hug because I SO feel you on this. We were planning to have our wedding at a nearby theme park, but they only book from tourist season to tourist season. That meant I was going to have to wait until January to book my MARCH 2013 wedding. I literally cried over this on at least four occasions, because I couldn’t do ANYTHING related to planning really, until it was officially booked. Then when I’d look into other venues they were either way too big, too expensive, too small…something was wrong with all of them. Very, very frustrating. Finally (and miraculously, I’m convinced, lol) I did one more google search for venues and I found one I had not previously noticed. It is just over an hour away, so I immediately called and set an appointment to see it the next day. It is a Victorian house that is used solely for events and it turned out to be PERFECT. So my vintage/rustic wedding turned into a vintage/shabby chic wedding.

Take a deep breath and know that you will find something just right. It might fall right out of the sky and land in your lap like it did for us. Try looking just a little bit out of your area and something might surprise you. Good luck!

Post # 9
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

ugh i really feel for you…. i ultimately had to sacrifice getting married in the church i wanted because there just wasnt anything that worked close enough… i did finally find an absolutely perfect place that was UNDER budget, but we will have to have the ceremony there and outside which was a compromise. :/

anyways try to relax and you have plenty of time. you WILL find a great place to have your reception.

Post # 10
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Why don’t you try going to a few bridal shows to see what venues show up there? You get to meet everyone at once and see what deals they may be able to offer (they usually have deals at the bridal shows). I went to a bridal show and ended up getting my venue for free. You and Fiance can also meet with other potential vendors and have fun while doing it.

Post # 11
2207 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

ps i searched for at least 3 months before i stumbled upon my venue… i looked at hundreds of venues through the knot. just be patient and try not to stress!

Post # 12
4893 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

You’re definitely not the only one. That’s the next step in my planning too, and I literally can’t do anything until I find my venue. But I can’t find one in the budget. 

It’s frustrating, but you have to keep looking! Try to think outside the box, and you’ll find something. 

Post # 13
356 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

YES it is VERY hard! I couldn’t even tell you how many places I visited.  I fell in love with this one place, but the price was way to high.  I was sad.  But the place we did pick is beautiful, has great food, and has nice prices.  The con is that it is far away. (35 min) OK so not that far, but far enough where it is inconveinant.  So, I took the con with all the pros, and I think I made out nicely!  Don’t expect perfection.  Find all your choices using the internet, wedding wire, friends, and then visit them.  If the price is too high, maybe they can give you a discount!

I then narrowed down my options to the top 5, and put together a power point presentation.  It really helped me figure out which one I did like.  Then I presented it to mine and; his family and we found our venue!!

Signing the contract was also stressful, but that’s another story for another day.

Once it is over, it is so satisfying! Keep up the good work!

Post # 15
1599 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I totally went through this. I had this crazy dream of being married in a theater. And since Pittsburgh is a pretty cultural city, I thought it would be easy.


The big theaters were INSANELY expensive ($4000 just to breathe the air), smaller theaters were unavailable or uncooperative, and the ones who were ready, willing, and able, were too far away or hideous. lol

But I kept looking and expanding my resources and we finally found a theater that works for us, and you will, too.

Have you tried looking at non-traditional places like parks, museums, art galleries, etc.? Just sit back and think of places in your area that can seat a bunch of people. Check out their websites and see if they host events. I was shocked at the number of places around here that are now hosting parties — our science center, our aviary, things like that.

Sometimes other wedding vendors will offer suggestions, too. Or, if you already have an officiant, ask them where they’ve hosted weddings in the past. Bridal shows may help, too.

Just be up front about your budget and expectations when you contact people. And keep searching. Take breaks when you need it, then plunge back in a few days later.

Good luck! 

Post # 16
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yes, the venue search for the reception is exhaustive. I had to make a few compromises but we found the perfect venue for us.  I think once you let go of the dream of perfection, you can find something that works wonderfully.  Yes, people will comment on a spectacular venue but in the end, not many really care as long as they are celebrating your day (plus the free food and booze helps LOL).  You will find your venue, and even if you have to sacrifice a few things, it will be perfect because you will make it so.  Good luck.

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