- 4 years ago
I’ve been doing some searching and finding a lot of “is my dress too fancy for my venue” questions, and finding I’m in the complete opposite boat!
Is it possible to have a venue that is TOO fancy for your guests?
FI and I live in the city, and things are expensive here, ESPECIALLY if we want a venue that has some sort of character to it and not just another banquet hall. I have discovered a beautiful hotel in the centre of the city that has a ballroom that is exactly what I am looking for:
Because OH MY GOD look at the crown moulding.
The issue is that this is a VERY Expensive hotel: The cheapest room you can get is $190 a night. It is exclusive valet parking, and costs $40 a car which is staggeringly high. I feel to pull this off I would have to find OTHER accomodations and parking options.. because.. woah.
This venue, being right down town and accessible by all transit has hosted a ton of celebrity events and weddings. Visually the room is exactly what I want for my theme, and from what I have experienced so far, with the limited interactions I have had with them, their service has been excellent and completely on point. I am SO interested.
However. FI says that some of our guests and family might feel completely out of place and that this luxury hotel is too fancy for them. We are torn on this subject: I work in the luxury goods industry and am a total city slicker. For ME there is no such thing as “too opulent”. FI is a small-town country boy who enjoys the simple life and says we could make guests feel uncomfortable if they walk into an upscale place and feel under dressed. I say that even if the venue is ritzy, sometimes it’s fun to feel like a regular person and crash the fancy party. Getting invited somewhere posh is a treat for me, but uncomfortable for him.
I wanted to put it to you bees for thoughts, I know we come from all kinds of backgrounds and walks of life.
Would you be made uncomfortable to be invited to a wedding in a fancy place? I am NOT asking my guests to dress up in a way that they are not comfortable with, but often the venue sets the tone for the event. Can a wedding be too fancy? I have done work for WedLuxe and other wedding publications before, so I am beginning to think my vision of the wedding industry has become a little skewed away from “Real life”.
All opinions welcome! Thanks bees!