(Closed) Venue Too Far Away?

posted 5 years ago in Venue
Post # 3
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think it really depends on your crowd. My family personally aren’t willing to travel longer than an hour.. an 3 hour drive there + 3 hour drive back pretty much means they’ll need to book a hotel for the night. The more you factor in costs of your wedding, the less likely some guests might be to show up.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

my wedding will be about 2.5 hrs away but it was a compromise because half of my guests are from NY/NJ and half are from boston so we decided to book right in the middle (lenox, ma)

I don’t think that having a wedding a few hours drive is that bad but you do have to consider what is “normal’ in your circle? are wedding weekends big? are you planning on providing some sort of pre-party on friday night and brunch on sunday to entertain guests? (not necessary but generally if you are planning a “destination” wedding its typical) Is there a hotel close by you can get a good rate at (say under $100)

how big of a deal are weddings in your circle? all out giant affairs? or more casual?

IMO Driving 3 hours for a weekend wedding is one thing driving 3 hrs for a quick ceremony and some cake is another….. I guess what I am saying is if the wedding is further I think you need to provide more “hospitality” to your guests to make up for it

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@missmonsterjeep:  I think it really depends on the person. My wedding is long distance for the majority of guests but it didn’t really matter to me. If you want to come and support me, you will. If you have to pay for a hotel room then I give you more notice and hope that makes it better.

 

People may make the trip and just gift you less since their costs are higher, which would be understandable.

 

My family is from Windsor and I’m getting married in Toronto….  thats 4 hours, his family is from California, Lebanon and Australia. So they’re going even farther… only the Bridal Party and parents are close to my location….

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

Uh we looked at places 4 hours away, 9 hours away, 3 hours away, etc. We looked at hotel blocks for our guests. Where ever we did our wedding over half of the people were going to travel. After a while I stopped catering my wedding to other people and trying to budget it into a extreme shopper savings mode like I do with clothes, housewares etc. I’m an extreme shopper because being a single mom I’ve had to be for a long time, the kid isnt going to have enough clothing for the season unless I buy clearance on sale with coupons sorry. I faced that this was a celebration and we were both going in on it and I wanted it to be about us. I’m making EVERYONE travel now. Be it 2-3 hour on a plane or 1-3 days driving everyone is traveling. I also nixed all the things I didnt want and put in things I do want. This is your wedding and your budget the people that matter will travel provided you give them the means. I’m providing ample hotel blocks, and I’m trying to get an airline block too. These things can be done :).

Post # 8
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892 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Personally, unless you or your Fiance were my cousin or sister/brother, close friend etc. and I was for example a co-worker and we weren’t that close I probably wouldn’t come. Three hours one way and a hotel is a lot for a wedding. You need to talk to the majority of your guests though, and whilst doing that, keep looking around.

If the majority of your guests would be willing to make the trip then go for it. Otherwise a change in venue may necessary. I think it would be a pretty big deal to make a three hour trip especially if people who are coming will bring their kids or for older people and etc, as much as its your and FH’s day (and it is, I’m not taking away from that) you need to still keep your guests in mind.

Post # 9
Hostess
2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It really depends on the person.  If it was someone I was close to, I wouldn’t think twice about booking a room and making a weekend out of it.  If it was just a casual friend, I probably wouldn’t make the trek.

I don’t know if it’ll be any closer, but check out the Barn at Boone’s Dam in Bloomsburg, PA.  It’s a (rustic) barn.  Has bathroom, AC/heat, a kitchen… pretty much everything.  They do all their own catering (the food is AMAZING!) and the pricing is pretty reasonable.  It’s BYOB though (yay or nay depending on how you look at it).  There is no rental fee — it’s included in your per person cost.  Ruth is a delight to deal with (this is actually my venue!!).  She just bought another barn and is in the process of remodeling it.  It’s a little mroe rustic — still has bathrooms — but won’t have AC or heat, so it’s only open from like May – October.  The cost there is a little pricier, but it’s still very nice.  🙂

Post # 10
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387 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Our wedding is about 4 hours away, and our immediate families are both local to where we live  currently. I agree with PP the people who love and support you will make it a priority to be there. Period. You are giving them all more than sufficient notice!

I will admit for me though, I have felt more pressure to go all out and make it a destination wedding weekend of events because of the distance. If they are going to make the time and financial commitment to travel to my wedding, I am going to make it worth their while— and that doesn’t necessarily mean spending more money, just being smart about how we spend it to deliver a fun and memorable experience for all.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

For someone important to me, sure, I would travel.  We’ve travelled cross-country and out of the country to attend family and friends’ weddings.  But, while I would never say anything to anyone besides my Fiance, I would feel that it was a bit much for a couple to have a destination wedding just for the venue, unless the venue was a nice hotel or B&B where all of the guests were staying.  If the destination itself is worth visiting or has special meaning to the couple, then no problem.  But if there is nothing special about the location besides the fact that the couple likes the venue, then I would think that it was a bit much for the couple to ask their guests to do extra travelling rather than compromising on a more conveniently located venue.  But, like I said, I would still attend the wedding and be sincerely happy for the couple.

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