Post # 1
I have been searching and searching for the perfect venue but I just cant seem to find one. I just feel so sad. I dont consider myself a bridezilla but I do have a particular look that I am going for and in my area everything seems so 80’s. I would just like to cry. Any one else have this problem?
Post # 3
I completely feel your pain!!! It took us SEVENTEEN MONTHS to find a venue. Yes — about a year and a half, just to find a venue. It was hard for us because we wanted a small, unconventional wedding (aka: typical banquet places we didn’t like) and we were on a serious budget (aka: if we found a place we liked, we couldn’t afford it!). This drove me INSANE. We seriously considered forgetting the whole thing and eloping over it. I ate Ben & Jerry’s in the bathtub and cried over it — that was rock bottom. So I totally understand the frustration, the helplessness, the resentment of wedding planning in general.
THAT BEING SAID — don’t give up! We eventually DID find our place, and once we did, I understood why it didn’t work out with all the other places. I know, I know — that’s a cliche about finding your soul mate, but that’s how we felt!!
Tell us about the kind of wedding you want. Rough size of your guest list? Upscale or low key? What kind of budget? What you are looking for in a venue? What you are willing to compromise on and what you are not? Maybe we can help.
Post # 4
I hear ya. However, don’t give up or get discouraged. Why don’t you post in the location section on here and see if anyone in your general area has any ideas for you? I have seen some locations on the bee that are breathtaking, and I’m not talking about only in exotic locations.
Post # 5
I live in a small town 2 hours southeast of Pittsburgh. There is not much around here. I was looking for a rustic type venue, it doesnt have to be a barn. My cousin is a wedding dj and I have a friend who is a wedding photographer so those are both covered. I have a caterer in mind and I want to do my own decorations so I dont want a place where its all included. All that I keep finding are places that have it all included. I also (and this might sound weird idk) dont want a drop ceiling. From the time I was little and over the years when I would attend a wedding that was my one thing. I want a high ceiling. The local park has a historic ballroom that has a high wooden vaulted ceiling that I love but they only let you book from 8am to 10pm and I dont want to have to decorate the day of my wedding but I also dont want to have to pay for a whole other day to go the day before and decorate.When you look at the place it might not seem like someones dream location but a few years ago we held a 50th anniversary party there and we decorated it like a wedding reception and it turned out so beautiful. It has a lot of space and I know that I could turn it in to the reception of my dreams… I did find another location but it is about an hour away and most of our guests are from this area. I dont want to make people drive far away.
Post # 6
@brizzybriz: Okay, so you do have some options right now!! Venue 1, being the venue of your dreams (local park historic ballroom), and Venue 2, being the other location about an hour away.
And based on your post, the only downside to Venue 1 is that you would have to decorate the morning of? You can have some friends or family members decorate for you, or even higher some local college students majoring in interior design for real cheap to do it. Just have lots of pictures of the specifics you want, and let them take that! Or, if you absolutely MUST be there to do the decorating… well then, would you be willing to tolerate the fact of having to do that in the morning as the one trade off to the otherwise perfect venue that you love and can afford?
Venue 2 — don’t worry so much about the distance. An hour is NOT that far away. I struggled with this issue before we booked our venue, which ended up being an hour an a half away from everyone, because I wanted to be considerate of them. Is your wedding on a Saturday? I’d be more concerned if it was on a Sunday and people had to work the next day, or a Friday when people have to commute to your venue from work or take off work. But if it’s a Saturday, no biggie.
Post # 7
I hear you! It was hard to find a place that wasn’t a big square room with low drop ceilings and burgundy and gold decor. I do believe though, that dim lights can fix a lot of bad things in any venue.
But i totally feel you on the drop ceilings. I developed a lot of reception pics as a photo tech working at a pharmacy while getting through college, and all i noticed in any of the pics was the ugly drop ceilings!
I may have to decorate the day of at my reception site too, depending on whether there ends up being an event scheduled the day before or not. I’m just hoping we can get in early and that I have a lot of help to make it go quick! I want my hair appointment to be at 12 or 1230, and our wedding will be at 2:30 or 3…
I’m hoping 4 hours would be more than enough time to decorate, assuming we can get in around 8am. Thankfully i have a lot of eager and helpful women in my family to help!
I hope you are able to figure it out soon!
Post # 8
@brizzybriz: Oh no! Where are you looking? Have you done a Wedding Wire search?
Post # 9
UPDATE: turns out my Maid/Matron of Honor knows the person who books my dream venue. He told me I can have the day before FOR FREE so that I can decorate!!!!!!! YAY!! Now just to convince my fiance that this is the right place for us (he doesnt have my creative/artistic vision and doesnt see the big pictures lol)
Post # 10
Hahaha, I looked at EVERY VENUE IN BUFFALO NY. I saw literally HUNDREDS of places!
Eventually, we ended up moving our location a little… And we found the PERFECT venue!