(Closed) Venue vs. Date.. Which One Should I Settle For?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Venue vs. Date
    Stick with the venue you love, decide on a different date : (67 votes)
    92 %
    Go with a venue that can offer your date, even though it is much more expensive : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Pick a venue that can offer your date, even though it is sub-par to your expectations : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Personally, the venue is way more important to me than the date. I looked at about 50 venues online and 12 ‘in the flesh’ and ours was perfect, the others had too many problems, so we’d def have changed the date rather than the venue. Ultimately the date doesn’t really matter IMPO, you’re not going to look back and think ‘Oh god, I wish we hadn’t married on the 17th November/married in October’, whereas if you compromise on the venue you might look back and think ‘I wish we’d gone with our first choice’.

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    It sounds like the date is more important to you. To me the venue was much more important, but everyone is different. You have to decide which of the two you would regret more. I’d be careful going with a more expensive venue, costs can add up quickly.

    Post # 5
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think the venue is more important than the date, but that’s just me. I would rather have a great venue that I loved, within my price range, on whatever date than a venue I really wasn’t in love with. We sort of had a similar problem – we had our hearts set on a venue and they had no more saturdays left for next summer, so we had to go with a friday. 

    Post # 6
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    155 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If it were me, I would definitely go with the venue I loved. A similar thing happened to us and we did not get our first choice date, but I was not as strongly attached so it was not too big of a problem. I think when November 10th comes you will either be so happy because you just got married or so excited because you are about to get married that you won’t be thinking about what could have been.

    That being said, it’s true that different things are priorities for different people, so I wouldn’t blame you for choosing a different venue if the date is at the top of your list.

    Just curious, why don’t you want to get married November 3?

    Post # 7
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    In order to get the church we wanted, we had to go with our second-choice date. It was 100% worth it.  The date is just a number, the venue is what all of your memories are going to be of. 

    Post # 8
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    4583 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    My suggestion? Try for a Sunday wedding. It’s only one day later so it’s still in that perfect timeframe that you want, it’s more likely to be available at your venue and it may even be cheaper.

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    We originally wanted 10/2/10 but the venue we wanted (and ended up getting married at) was only available two weekends in August. I had not wanted an August wedding at all! However it ended up not mattering about the date because the venue was exactly what we wanted! And to be honest, I didnt even think about it on 10/2/10 that it wouldve been our wedding date because our wedding would have been awesome regardless of the day it was on!

    Post # 10
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    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I would go with the venue especially since you really love it.  I was told to have 3 or 4 dates in mind because more than likely 2 of them will be taken.  I have a similar situation because we want a summer outdoor reception.  It’s difficult for us to find a venue that will accommodate all our criteria.  Good luck!

    Post # 11
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    149 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It really comes down to what you care more about, and it honestly sounds like its the date. I would look for another venue.

    The date was more important for us when we were searching for a venue as well (it was our dating anniversary), but we started about 2 years out, so we really had our pick of venues in our area.

    Post # 12
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I understand having your heart set on a date, but I think the venue is much more important.  We have changed our date THAT many times, we had the most perfect date but our fav venue was booked.  We tried really hard with our 2nd and third choice venues but they really didn’t compare, so we’ve changed our date to suit our venue and so happy with the decision.  Once you rebase yourself around a new date, it becomes your wedding date and it will feel right.

    Post # 13
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    709 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’m also curious why you’re so adamant about not having it November 3rd?

    Post # 14
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    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    The venue is much more important than the date, IMO.  Go with the venue you both love and can afford and pick a date they are available.  Trust me – whatever date you end up getting married will be WAY more special than keeping the “prefered” date.

    Post # 16
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    for us, the date really did not matter. we had a general idea of when would be good, but we really just chose the date because it was the only one open at the venue we loved. it sounds like you’re really set about this date, but think of it this way: no matter when the date is, it will be from then on be completely special. for us, august 7th meant literally nothing to us before; now it’s the best 🙂

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