(Closed) Venue vs. Date.. Which One Should I Settle For?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Venue vs. Date
    Stick with the venue you love, decide on a different date : (67 votes)
    92 %
    Go with a venue that can offer your date, even though it is much more expensive : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Pick a venue that can offer your date, even though it is sub-par to your expectations : (3 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 17
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    1561 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @katiebee3: True, you celebrate that date every year, but the fact that you got married on that day is what makes it special, not the actual numbers.  Any date you get married will be special by default. 

    But that is just my opinion, obviously.  I didn’t care what specific date we got married.

    Post # 18
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    328 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think it just depends on you. Some people will say one or another.

    I would hate for you to keep the date and spend time wishing that you had been able to have it at the perfect venue. You might spend a lot more money making your second or third choice venue “look like” your first choice venue.

    It sounds like you have a lot of personal reasons for choosing Nov 10, so if that’s your thing, then I would make that a top priority. I thought I knew what I really wanted for my wedding for a lot of details, but when I started looking at other possibilities, my vision has changed. Who knows, maybe you’ll realize after you get into planning that your first choice wasn’t a great as you thought!

    Post # 19
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    1963 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I think if the date has meaning, the date is important.  OP, your date doesn’t sound like it has any meaning…just that it was the most ideal fall Saturday (November, really fally, a Saturday) on which to get married.  I would definitely take the venue over the date in this case.

    Post # 20
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    3977 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    10/20/2012 is a cool date as well and still firmly fall

    The date is what you make it.

    Post # 21
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    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    Go with the venue you love! Instead of saying “We would have been married this day”, you could end up saying “We SHOULD have stayed with the first venue”. 

    Post # 22
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    6891 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    It’s more up to you than anything. Fiance and I went through a LOT when it came to venues and dates, switching both quite a few times, until we finally settled. We ended up with the venue we liked at a later date than we wanted. I’ll admit, I’m not 100% thrilled, because now I have to wait longer to be married and this whole “engaged for forever” thing isn’t working for me. I’m impatient. 🙂

    You don’t want to have a venue that you dislike or would be comparing unfavorably to your favorite, but sometimes that is a compromise too. (Also was for us). I think…it all works out in the end. Choose which one YOU think deserves priority.

    Post # 23
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    455 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We didn’t get our first choice date of March 24, 2012 because the venue was already booked.  So, we settled for March 31, 2012.  But, it’s up to you!

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