- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
I got engaged in 2011 to my best friend from college and immediately, my biggest frienemy from high school started to dig into me. I’m a plus size bride and always have been a plus size girl and this female made my life a living hell because she was and is so unhappy with herself. She is a waif that can’t gain weight and is the living embodiment of hatred and envy. I say this with a clear mind and a scarred heart, not to mention psyche.
I grew row up hearing her nag me about my weight and continually find ways to make fun of me and put me down. She used to out in my face that she could fit into Vera Wang designer clothes, something I had dreamt of. This girl rubbed it in my face that I was too “fat” to fit in a Vera Wang dress and that when she got married, she would have a Vera Wang dress.
Things didn’t turn out like she had planned, as she had slept with a 16 year boy when she was 19 and got pregnant by him. He ran away from her and he happens to be my nephew, so she had more fire to throw at me. It comes up and I tell her that I got engaged and that I’m very happy that I’m marrying my best friend. I should’ve known better because ever since then, she has found ways to continue to make snide remarks to me and and out me down.
As a way to cheer my spirits, a friend of mine told me that Vera was designing plus size dresses and took me to see them. I loved them! I finally could wear Vera! It was a dream come true and soon, I was trying dresses on with my future mother in law and I found a Vera gown that was perfect on me. I knew it would be a final stab and coming of age for me to get the dress, so without really thinking about it… I bought it.
I had fallen in love with a different dress before the Vera and when it dawned on me that I had bought the Vera not because I loved it but because it was revenge.
Since that day, I’ve been hunting for a David’s Bridal style 9yp3344, the real dress that I felt was the one. My bully no longer torments me but my rash decision to buy revenge haunts me everyday. I’ve been losing sleep over trying to find my dress. I searched almost everywhere and at this point I don’t even care if it is used, I just want my dream dress. It just seems like there are no more size 22w women out there or my dress in that size. I spoke to DB’s and they said my dress wouldn’t make it in time for my wedding even if I ordered it now and I’m losing hope otherwise.
I’m over my head here and I could use some help. Please?