- 3 years ago
It’s probably not a good idea to be writing this post, but I’m just SO bothered by an encouter I had today, and I had to say something about it. I had to know the the vast amount of people don’t actually agree with this on the level that this women did. So some work friends and I went out to lunch today. All was well. There was a female worker who I’m not as familiar with, so I tried to go a bit out of my way to welcome her. I understand by new, and how it can be a bit anxiety ridden to try to find your ‘niche’ in the group. So we sat next to each other and all was going well. We were having great conversation about shows we equally enjoyed. I had a huge breakfast in the morning (I’m a bit breakfast person, probably more than any other meal of the day). So when it came time to order, I decided to order a salad. However, this wasn’t your ‘basic’ rabbit food salad. It was a ceasar pasta salad: It had noodles, letteuce, chicken, bacon, croutons, dressing, and two rolls on the side that were smothered in honey (it’s amazing). Yes, it’s just as good as it sounds.
So our food comes to the table, and my new ‘friend’ immediately gets this very off-put look on her face. She’s staring at my salad. She decided to order a pasta dish with lots of cheese. It smelled so good. I thought maybe she was staring at my salad because she was interested in trying it? So I asked, ‘Oh, would you like to try a bite?’. This is where things really hit the fan. She got very, very offended. She basically was grilling me for offering her my salad (that she was staring at) and that by offering her a bite of my salad, I was in turn actually hinting at the fact that she shouldn’t be eating pasta and should be eating my salad because she’s FAT. She also said that I was exactly what was wrong with women. Apparently she said that I feel ‘inclined’ to order a salad because society says that you need to be very thin and small, and the only way to do that is by eating salad. Please keep in mind that this salad was the most pathetic excuse for a salad ever. I actually think my salad was at the same calorie count as her pasta dish. I tried to explain that’s not at ALL what I meant, that I simply took her STARING AT MY SALAD as interest in it, and I was just trying to be nice.
She then said that I was just using that as en excuse, and that I had, and I quote, “Thin Privilege’. I’m sorry. But what in GOD’S NAME IS THIN PRIVELEGE?! I was so confused, so I further asked her what that is. She then states two points that I honestly almost died when she stated them. She said that it involves things like “Paying less money for your clothes” and “Having lower health insurance rates than overweight people”. At this point, I thought she was joking. She had to be joking. Because there’s no way any logical, intelligent person would use those two points as VALID ones towards her arugmenet? I then offered the counter part of her points: “Well, I feel like the clothing tends to be cheaper simply because the basis of using slightly less fabric. And unfortunetly, usually insurance rates tend to be higher for individuals who struggle with their weight, simply because those individuals tend to face more health issues then others. Not always, obviously, but a good bit of the time.” Well, she didn’t like that. She called me a ‘skinny B****’ and left. I have never been so angry and disgusted in my life. Who is this women to accuse me of calling her fat, that I’m priviledged because I work hard to eat well and work out, and that completely logical things are actually illogical and somehow my fault?
Please, please, please someone tell me that what I experienced today is NOT the norm. There was a bit of time in high school where I struggled with my weight, and it wasn’t easy. But I pushed myself to do something about it. It’s a constant mindset everyday, but I’ve never been healthier OR happier. But this women as the audacity to make my feel like crap because of my size? Is this not thin shamming? When did women decide that, in order to make themselves feel better, they should drag others down instead? I’m appauled and very, very irked. Please shed some light on this situation.