Verbally attacked today over 'Thin Privilege'? I can't.

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Post # 136
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Buzzing Beekeeper

tiffanybruiser :  This needs to be published somewhere big. This is exactly 100% true. Excellent post and I seriously encourage you to find some larger platform to put this on because it gives a clear answer to a question that a lot of people have.

Post # 137
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Buzzing Beekeeper

tiffanybruiser :  Yes yes yes. So much yes. And it baffles me that people just don’t get this.

Post # 138
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

tiffanybruiser :  ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜ <– from someone who used to get the skinny comments all of the time, which made me feel self-conscious but was nowhere near fat-shaming, since skinny is considered a compliment.

Esp love your apt comparison to BLM. 

Post # 139
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TheGridMonster :  It’s really hard to pinpoint though. Even people who “get it” (like me) have a hard time putting into words why telling a thin person “you don’t need the nutrition menu!” isn’t the same as telling a fat person “you should look at the nutrition menu.” Both are snarky, both are unnecessary, but it takes some thought to realize, both are saying “thin is better.” I’ve never had it gel like this before, and I hope it sinks in for a lot of people who either get it but didn’t have a good way to talk about it, or who didn’t get it and now do.

Post # 140
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

tiffanybruiser :  I think people should stop commenting on each other’s bodies, period.

Post # 141
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Daisy_Mae :  I guess so, it’s just that for me, my gut’s always told me that it’s just not the same, so it’s hard for me to understand how others don’t even have some sense of it. But hey, if I’ve learned anything over the past month, it’s that I basically don’t understand the way a ton of people think.

Post # 142
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Daisy_Mae :  I absolutely could not agree more. The point made, to perfection. 

Post # 145
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Helper bee

gatordeb :  I just wanted to comment that you sound like an amazing, strong and free thinking individual.  I think that a lot of emotionally weaker people would have let themselves go to a very dark place if they were completely inexperienced romantically at the age of 36.  But you held on to your confidence.  I am thrilled that you found your soulmate and am certain that your inner strength will guide you through any obstacle. Good luck with your weight loss!

Post # 146
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Helper bee

yourhandinmine :  your coworker’s behavior was completely childish and unprofessional.  I can’t believe that anyone can come up with any defense for her aggressive attitude.   

Post # 149
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Your coworker clearly has some body issues that have nothing to do with you. However, I don’t think I would have engaged with her just because I don’t believe in engaging in touchy subjects in a work environment. 

In my personal life though, I view someone commenting on my body and/or eating habits as an open invitation to comment on theirs. People don’t tend to like that very much and I don’t get many repeat comments. 

Post # 150
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Helper bee

yourhandinmine :  for me the biggest issue is that she was acting like you were her nagging mother or disapproving sister or something.  You are a new coworker who was just being friendly.  Her behavior crossed a million coworker boundaries.  This has nothing to do with weight and food.  She’s unprofessional and she’ll probably cause a lot of problems at your office.  I’m sorry!

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