(Closed) Verbally attacked today over 'Thin Privilege'? I can't.

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Post # 76
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

people be cray!

 

Post # 77
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1360 posts
Bumble bee

Wow, that woman clearly hates herself. Very sad.

Post # 78
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

yourhandinmine :  what a bitch.  I agree, time for HR to get involved.  That is NOT how you behave at a new job!

Post # 79
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

MeandYou :  LOLOL. I really wish that America would adopt the UK way of speaking sometimes. It cracks me up! Plus, the accent just sounds better.

Post # 81
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

tiffanybruiser :  I agree completely, thin shaming and fat shaming aren’t on the same level, and I have literally been grabbed by the hip while being told to eat a hamburger.  Being called a beached whale during my overweight adolescence hurt a hell of a lot more.

Post # 82
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

Thin privilege is real. So is pretty privilege and a whole host of other things that allow some people to have advantages they did not earn themselves as they move through life. Going down the rabbit hole with her doesn’t seem to have been of any benefit, especially as it also appears to be on a topic in which you were not well versed.

Also, some people can find a fight anywhere. She sounds like she projected a lot of assumptions onto you with unnecessary intensity which was rude and inappropriate. Hopefully, she’ll improve her skills at bringing up these kinds of things in the future, because it sounds like she’s airing personal grievances rather than increasing awareness, in which case, she should be speaking with a counselor rather than new work friends at lunch.

Post # 84
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

TwilightRarity :  thin privilege is an “advantage” that is earned

Post # 85
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

mrs2014 :  hahaha….maybe by some but sure as hell not by all. That’s a fucking ridiculous statement. There are plenty of people who are thin because of thier genes and plenty of people who struggle with weight because of thier genes. Weight is a different struggle for everyone and there are a lot of factors that go into it. 

Post # 86
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would have told her to pull up ANY restaurants nutrional facts and see that many times, you’re right, the salad is just as a bad as a cheesy pasta dish or a big juicy burger.  It’s prettys said that so many people think that “salad” is healthy at a restaurant.  However on point 2 and 3.. .i dont see how skinny pays less for clothing.  If I go to Macys and pick up a shirt, whether is a 0 or a 14.. it’s the saem price!  And health insurnace… I mean, there’s is ONE rate for health insurnace at work.  You could be a marahton runner in top shape or eating BK everyday and obese, you pay the same.  So … she obvious has issues with herself it seems and just took it out on you.  Either way, I probably couldn’t be friends with anyone that unreasonable.

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

hikingbride :  yeah, but I think it’s not really fair to say how ppls go around taking advantage of things they didn’t earn. I earned my weight fair and square. I worked very very hard to slim down (weight was gained due to an illness) and I feel like I have earned that mysterious “thin privilege” lol. I am not even thin really now, just normal weight I guess, but very much earned!

at the same time I was born with an extremely  high IQ (like Mensa level). I didn’t earn it, but I do take advantage of it obviously. Is it also now a privilege that is offensive to ppls?… I am so confused ;(

Post # 88
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

pinkshoes :  think health insurance also depends per country. Where I am located now no pre-existing health conditions are taken into account to determine the rate!

Post # 89
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

mrs2014 :  It can be. But in many cases, it’s just someone’s build. The ideal might be something that many people work at to achieve and maintain but the advantage is conveyed to everyone who fits within certain guidelines.

And the issue with it is that there are certain assumptions that are made about people who are thin that assigns them positive characteristics based in nothing but their body size/appearance. Being thin can cause someone to assume that one is “healthy” that they’ve “got it together” or are more competent versus the assumption that fat people are unhealthy, sloppy, indulgent or less competent.

Post # 90
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

mrs2014 :  Oh, I guess i’ve been sheltered in my company provided health insurnace my whole life! 

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