- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
people be cray!
people be cray!
Wow, that woman clearly hates herself. Very sad.
tiffanybruiser : I agree completely, thin shaming and fat shaming aren’t on the same level, and I have literally been grabbed by the hip while being told to eat a hamburger. Being called a beached whale during my overweight adolescence hurt a hell of a lot more.
Thin privilege is real. So is pretty privilege and a whole host of other things that allow some people to have advantages they did not earn themselves as they move through life. Going down the rabbit hole with her doesn’t seem to have been of any benefit, especially as it also appears to be on a topic in which you were not well versed.
Also, some people can find a fight anywhere. She sounds like she projected a lot of assumptions onto you with unnecessary intensity which was rude and inappropriate. Hopefully, she’ll improve her skills at bringing up these kinds of things in the future, because it sounds like she’s airing personal grievances rather than increasing awareness, in which case, she should be speaking with a counselor rather than new work friends at lunch.
tiffanybruiser : I totally agree with you. I just find it a giant contradiction when these individuals claim that all bodies should be loved, but not the SKINNY bodies. Only the people who are struggling with weight. At the end of the day, if someone is putting down another individual to force push their agenda, they’re doing it wrong. I don’t respect or appreciate anyone who puts another person down to make themselves feel better. If I had told this women “I think you’re insecure because you’re overweight” she would rage on me. But somehow, because I’m ‘thin’ she thinks it’s fine to say, “She thinks she’s beautiful because she’s skinny.” So I totally agree with you. I also agree fat shamming is MUCH worse and happens much more often. But I also know thin shamming is a thing, and horribly enough, is usually comes from the overweight individuals who praise ‘every body is beautiful’. It just doesn’t make any sense:(
mrs2014 : hahaha….maybe by some but sure as hell not by all. That’s a fucking ridiculous statement. There are plenty of people who are thin because of thier genes and plenty of people who struggle with weight because of thier genes. Weight is a different struggle for everyone and there are a lot of factors that go into it.
I would have told her to pull up ANY restaurants nutrional facts and see that many times, you’re right, the salad is just as a bad as a cheesy pasta dish or a big juicy burger. It’s prettys said that so many people think that “salad” is healthy at a restaurant. However on point 2 and 3.. .i dont see how skinny pays less for clothing. If I go to Macys and pick up a shirt, whether is a 0 or a 14.. it’s the saem price! And health insurnace… I mean, there’s is ONE rate for health insurnace at work. You could be a marahton runner in top shape or eating BK everyday and obese, you pay the same. So … she obvious has issues with herself it seems and just took it out on you. Either way, I probably couldn’t be friends with anyone that unreasonable.
hikingbride : yeah, but I think it’s not really fair to say how ppls go around taking advantage of things they didn’t earn. I earned my weight fair and square. I worked very very hard to slim down (weight was gained due to an illness) and I feel like I have earned that mysterious “thin privilege” lol. I am not even thin really now, just normal weight I guess, but very much earned!
at the same time I was born with an extremely high IQ (like Mensa level). I didn’t earn it, but I do take advantage of it obviously. Is it also now a privilege that is offensive to ppls?… I am so confused ;(
mrs2014 : It can be. But in many cases, it’s just someone’s build. The ideal might be something that many people work at to achieve and maintain but the advantage is conveyed to everyone who fits within certain guidelines.
And the issue with it is that there are certain assumptions that are made about people who are thin that assigns them positive characteristics based in nothing but their body size/appearance. Being thin can cause someone to assume that one is “healthy” that they’ve “got it together” or are more competent versus the assumption that fat people are unhealthy, sloppy, indulgent or less competent.
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