(Closed) Very Bad Waiting Day

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee

I hope you have a better week. I’ve been with my guy for almost 6 years, and it’s harder each year. I feel like this post oculd have been written by me. You just have to try to stay positive Smile

Post # 5
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866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m so sorry! I know some guys can’t handle emotional breakdowns in the moment, maybe he was upset too and just got overwhelmed. Hopefully he’ll think about your reaction and realize how important this is to you and pop the question sooner rather than later… And I know this probably isn’t any comfort now, but at least he has a ring and is planning a proposal! You know he loves you and wants to marry you, and hopefully the month or two you wait for a proposal won’t make a huge difference in the grand scheme of things. Try not to let the resentment build or get too upset at him in the meantime, I’m surethe pressure of that isn’t good for either one of you. 

As hard as it may be, maybe you should just take the pressure off of him for a week or two and see if he takes action himself. If he doesn’t and it’s still driving you nuts, maybe you should just have a calm discussion with him letting him know that you would like an intimate, low-key proposal and he doesn’t have to wait for the be-all, end-all of dates. 

Good luck and let us know how it goes! 

Post # 6
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647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

i’m so sorry you’re going through this. just try to keep calm – he already has the ring and seems to be a planner, so one day you’ll get your perfect proposal. sticking to mr. Bee’s plan (which is mostly about focusing on yourself) and the Shut-It-Up pact helped me and all the other girls a lot, too.

Post # 7
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699 posts
Busy bee

@Thinkboxxx:  first, BIG HUG, it’s very hard when you know the ring is there and you want it yesterday. But, just try his shoes on for one min. He’s got one chance, one chance to get it right. Its a story you’ll want to tell over and over. i’mn sure he wants it perfect,  i’m sure you want something special too, deep down.  just go out, get a mani and some great clothes or go out with some gf’s. relax and have some fun, before you know it, it’ll be that special day and you’ll be happy as a clam.  good luck!!

Post # 9
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I’ve been thinking this for awhile – I think men who do this are bloody cruel.

Once you’ve got the ring, just propose and give it to the girl!  What the f**k is it with this letting the girl know you’ve got it, and then making her wait months (even years) to get it? 

Either keep your big trap shut so it’s a genuine surprise, or get your finger out and propose straight away.  Dangling the ring in front of someone is cruel, IMO. 

Post # 10
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1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If he already has the ring, you’re more than half way there. Generally the biggest hurdle is IF he will propose. You’re just waiting on “when.”

I know it’s difficult, but just stop talking about it. Let it go, and enjoy your remaining time as a girlfriend. It IS coming, it’s just a matter of time. You just don’t want to make him resentful of you and ruin what should be an exciting time for the 2 of you. I know it doesn’t seem like it, but January is actually not that far away. 

Post # 12
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370 posts
Helper bee

Yup I agree hang in there! You are almost at the finish line girl! I am in that same position with my boyfriend now. I think he’s picked up the ring from the jewlers and must have it since its been a few weeks since he ordered it. So I’ve stopped talking about it and complaining lol. Its now time for us to sit back, stay quiet and let him do his thing!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Did you tell him that you’re sick of waiting for the ring, sick of waiting for the proposal, sick of waiting to get married, what? 

My husband got a little frustrated with me – he thought I just wanted the ring.  I sat him down one day and explained (AGAIN) that I didn’t just want the ring.  I wanted to wear the ring (some ring, any ring) and be able to tell the world that he was MINE.  I wanted to get married and be his WIFE and start our lives.  No more “if we get married” but “when we’re 50…”  I just wanted to move on with our lives, him screwing me around wasn’t getting us anywhere.  He finally got it. 

Post # 14
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370 posts
Helper bee

I bet you the minute you stop talking about it he will do it πŸ™‚

Post # 16
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340 posts
Helper bee

That has to be so frustrating. I mean 6 years!?? I would be freaking out! Guys just don’t get it. He probably figures he has watied this long he wants to make it memorable for you. I think the crying and impatience is making it harder for him. Although, he needs to realize that you are starting to resent him (which is so understandable). If only women were the ones doing the proposing! I hope it happens soon! At least he has a ring and is intending to do so πŸ™‚

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