- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
So, I bought my dress yesterday. I had finalized it down to a few of the best ones and went with my mom and best friend to put an end to the madness and make a final decision.
I purposely tried them on in my reverse favourite, so that we’d end with my #1 dress choice, which I really loved but knew my mom wouldn’t. (It’s La Sposa Detalle, btw)
So, I try on the second to last dress and the curtain opens and my mom starts absolutely bawling, saying “This is your dress, this is the one!!!” and my heart sinks. My mom n-e-v-e-r cries, never, and this show of emotion is very out of character, which at that exact moment made me realize I was in the shit.
I hem and haw and walk around and look at the train and ask the Boyfriend or Best Friend her opinion all the while feeling sick. I finally say, “Well, there’s one more dress to try” and take that one off to put on my choice, almost tearing up in the dressing room knowing what was coming. I come out and…..silence. Then she says, “Well, this one is my least favourite of the whole day.”
To cut the story short(er), ultimately my friend pipes up and says (knowing this is my dream dress), “It’s YOUR day, you need to wear the dress that makes your heart sing.” And I blurt out, “Then this is my dress!!” After that, my mom didn’t say much to me, but she did say to my friend that I’ve always wanted to be a ballerina and this is the fantasy dress since my childhood.
In the end, I wouldn’t do anything different….I chose the dress I love, the one that makes me happy. But…..it’s pretty hard to go against your mom like that, and it’s even harder that she didn’t really throw me the bone of saying that while it’s not her preference, I look beautiful and it’s the right choice *for me*. I’ve felt tearful since, and I know she noticed because she commented that I didn’t seem happy and I told her the experience was very bittersweet.
Has anyone else had this kind of experience? I just need to feel normal about this and get over it to move on and enjoy my dress!