(Closed) Very bittersweet dress purchase

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Awww I’m really sorry that happened πŸ™  It does sound though like your mom knew why you picked the dress and that she was happy for you!

I went dress shopping with a close friend and her mom, and her mom spent the entire time whispering about why she didn’t like her future son-in-law whenever my friend was in the change room. It was terrible. The tension was palpable. BUT at the end of it all, she just wants her daughter to be happy, and she has a good relationship with them both now. She just had to get over her preconcieved notions πŸ˜‰

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cdncinnamongirl:  so which dress did you end up getting? πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Glad you got your dream dress, sorry about how your feeling. I went through a similar thing with my mum. She loved a particular dress on me and kept saying how much she loved it on me. I felt bad not buying it, it was gorgeous, but I had to be honest. Maybe it will help if you talk to your mum about it. πŸ™‚ At the end if the day she wants you to be happy and I’m sure she’ll think you look gorgeous in your dress. It sounds like you have a great friend too.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry! That would really sting. I have the same issue with my mom and the same pull where I feel guilty when I don’t go with her opinion. I’m sure when she sees you all dressed up on the big day that she will realize you were right!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I almost had a similar experience, but it ended better.

I asked my Mom if she would dress shop with me & my sister (MOH), and she was just so thrilled. The first dress in the first store we went to was this big ballgown (I wanted a fit&flare or mermaid). I came out from the dressing room and my Mom cried.

And I did not like this dress.

After a few more, and no reaction, I asked if she really liked the first one. She said no, it was just so stereotypically “bridal” that she suddenly realized that this wa real. She was SO helpful and supportive and so on when I finally did find MY dress, but there were only tears that once.

Post # 9
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4150 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Aww, I’m sorry. But congratulations on finding THE dress!! So glad to hear you got the dress for you, though.  Do you have any pics of your dress?

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@cdncinnamongirl:  your dress looks very similar to enzoani dabra and other enzoani’s huh? But it’s pronovias, better price? πŸ™‚ 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Oh honey my mom hated my dress! I came out and my bridesmaids were all clapping and one was crying. My mom looks up from her phone and says “Ugh, that is not a wedding gown” and looks back down to her texting. I ended up in an A-line lace halter dress and she said “real” wedding gowns were only big poofy strapless ballgowns. She still looks at pictures now and says I could have been a beautiful bride if I’d had a proper dress.

It hurts, I know. But YOU have to wear it, YOU have to be the one that is happy with it. I don’t regret my dress for a second because it was the one for me!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Glad you did get YOUR dream dress!

Good for you!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I completely understand.   I found my dress, and took my mom and sisters to look at it.  They all hated it.  My Mom said it looked like a big old net.   I ended up that day buying the dress they all liked.   After much dress regret and tears, I ended up buying my dream dress and no one likes it but me.   Too bad.   Its my wedding.

 

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