(Closed) Very Complicated Name Change Situation

posted 7 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

keep your name until you get back. i know its going to be hard to have to wait, but it will make things MUCH easier. changing your name is time consuming and tedious and you dont want to have to rush it.

i waited 10 days for my ss card, then a month to get an appt at the dmv plus another month for the actual id to arrive, and i am still trying to change my name at banks and creditors, and so on and so forth…

Post # 4
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1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

When I went through the name change process last year, I found that it took 4-5 weeks just to receive the official paperwork saying we had been married.  Therefore, I didn’t even start the name change process until almost a month after our wedding.  It took several more weeks to receive my social security card, etc.  I would just leave your name as is until you come back to the US.

Does your state have a specific rule about how long you have to change your name?  That might be a good starting spot.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I know it IS possible to pay a rush fee to get your passport back sooner, so it might be something to look in to.

I know when I got my name changed, I got my new credit cards within a few days.  My ID arrived in the mail a few days AFTER my social security card did, and we applied for the SS card about two months after the ID.  I haven’t changed my passport yet at all, and it’s coming up on two years since the wedding, so I’m not really much help there.

Would it be possible to start the name change process NOW?  I know you’re not normally supposed to do that until after the wedding, (“Just in case” I guess?), but in your circumstances it might be worth it.

Post # 5
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@EvaBostonTerrier: you’re right! i forgot how it took more than a month for our actual legal wedding license to come in the mail!

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I am kind of in a similar situation, but with an even LONGER time frame.

We are getting married in late September and will probably move to London starting mid-October.

We will be there at least 2 years.

I am thinking for legal purposes I will wait until we move back to the US to change my name, but I will introduce myself to everyone as my first name his last name.

If anyone asks about IDs or anything, I’ll just say we moved so soon after the wedding it was easier to keep my name legally  until we moved back.

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

You are not going to be able to leave or enter the country without your passport and other IDs matching eachother.  You could pay an expedited fee to get your passport back to you but that will basically double the cost.

I got my marriage license back a week after the wedding but it took a while for my new SSN card to come in the mail.  For expedited service on a passport, it can still take 2-3 weeks to process.  You can get it done faster by going to an expediting service but expect to pay a few hundred dollars.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: You definitely can as long as the name on the ticket matches the name on the passport.  They only look at one ID.  I did this a few weeks ago for a company trip to Malaysia because even though I have a new SS card and license, I hadn’t changed my passport yet.

OP – It is highly unlikely (actually pretty much impossible, IMO) that you will be able to get everything changed before you leave.  It will likely be a few weeks before you even obtain the documentation that shows you’ve been married.  You need this paperwork to get a new SS card so you can’t start anything until it arrives.  Then the SS card will take a few weeks to get to you and I needed the SS card before I could change my license.  It took 6 or 7 weeks after going to the DMV to get the license with my new name on it.  And even expidited passport service takes a few weeks.

Just wait until you get back.  I don’t think there is any time limit that you have to meet post-wedding for changing you name.  The only thing I had a time limit on was the window for adding Darling Husband to my insurance (had to be done within 1 month of wedding).

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am almost in the same situation than you except mine is probably even more complicated since I have to include a green card… I would strongly advise you to keep everything to your maiden name until you come back to the US. You want to keep things matching as much as possible in case there is a problem. There is no time limit for your name change though.

Post # 10
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1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’d say wait to avoid the stress. You could introduce yourself with your new name and go by it while you are away and then change it legally when you are back.

Post # 11
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468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We went to the county courthouse about 12-16 days after our wedding & obtained a certified marriage certificate. The same day, I went to the Social Security Administration office & within an hour or so had a new social security card & notified my employer to make the change for payroll records. After that, went to Motor Vehicles and after about 2 hours I had a new driver’s license with my married name, so I had it all done in one day within 2-3 weeks of being married. I then stopped in at the banks where I do business & had my name changed there, called utilities & advised them of changes & began calling credit & store cards to have it changed on those. It seemed that once I changed it with social security, businesses were able to verify the name change electronically and things went very smoothly. I sent in for the name change on the passport last week & they said I should have that next week.

There usually isn’t a time limit on changing your name, but there might be additional charges if you wait. For example, I had to change my passport within 1 year of our marriage in order for them to waive the fees. If you wait more than a year, then you pay regular passport fees.

I guess being able to physically go to these offices makes a big difference in how quickly things get done.

Best of luck to you!

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

I’d wait.   A lot of people in Europe legally have their maiden name but socially go by their husband’s name. 

Post # 13
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13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@tootietoo2: For example, I had to change my passport within 1 year of our marriage in order for them to waive the fees. If you wait more than a year, then you pay regular passport fees.

This only applies if you’ve had the passport for less than a year.  If you’ve had the passport for over a year, you still have to pay full passport fees no matter how quickly or slowly you change you name.

I guess being able to physically go to these offices makes a big difference in how quickly things get done.

I also went to all of the offices in person and none of them were able to provide me with a new card/ID that day.  All of them had to be sent out for processing.

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

It really depends on your state. In Ohio if you get the signed marriage certificate from your officiant you can take it to the courthouse that day and get as many certified abstracts as you want. It took me 1 day to change my name at the ss office and dmv (no appointments needed here). I did have to wait for the ss card in the mail. that took around a week. The passport would be the hardest thing but I think you can expedite it and get it in about 2 weeks if you’re willing to pay the fees. Bottom line– in Ohio I believe it would be totally possible to get this accomplished in 5 weeks. But in other states obviously not. You should maybe call the appropriate places to check on these things for Florida.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think the potential for a major screw up is way too high and its just better to wait. There’s nothing saying you can’t start using his name socially. You can introduce yourself by your new name.

People understand the name change process takes a while and no one will be put off if you sign your maiden name on credit cards, they probably won’t notice. If they notice something like this its not hard to say “we’re still in the process of doing all the paperwork!”

My friends started using their new names IMMEDIATELY. I only found out the other day that one still hasn’t officially finished changing her name on everything.

You have waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay to much else to worry about, why give yourself this headache?

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