Post # 1
My fiancé & I have been together for 9 years and I had always dreamed of being engaged and getting married to him, I couldn’t have been more happy when he did ask. Everything was perfect until the reality set in about our wedding.
I’m going to sound like an absolute moan but here goes –
Friends – I hardly have any friends, two very close ones and that’s about it. The guest list is mainly his side which is making me feel more lonely than normal.
Parents – This is a complicated mess, my father is a drunken bum who has never been in my life and will not be attending the wedding which is unfortunate. My fiancés father is a filandering half wit who has been seperated from his mum for years but they recently had a “fling” (they grew close after he was diagnosed with cancer) however since getting the all clear he cheated on my fiancés mother again (same reason they parted ways 15 years ago) and he wants to bring the gf to the wedding?!
Planning – Everyone including me thought I would be wedding crazy but so far I’ve not liked a thing I’ve seen in a magazine, wedding cake etc and there’s so much choice online its quite draining!
I just feel a bit deflated, is this normal?!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2013 - The front lawn of our church
Sorry you’re feeling this way but don’t worry! It’s normal! Just take it one step at a time and it’ll all fall in to place!
Post # 4
Don’t worry! I think most of us go through a phase like this during the planning process (or two or three)! I’m in a similar situation with a small circle of friends and it can be tough at times. Just try to make the best of things and remember who it’s really all about…you and your man, not the size of the bridal party or the unpredictable family members (we all have em!). It will all be okay at the end of the day.
As for things being a bit overwhelming, especially online – tell me about it! I successfully got myself completely overwhelmed after we first got engaged; I became completely immersed in all the wedding websites… theknot, stylemepretty, pinterest, etc. for about a month, but then I took a break for a few months and let things stew and then started seriously planning – so far it’s worked out pretty well! It was nice to take a little break and really think about what I wanted to see and my personal “vision” versus everything I saw online. Anyways, keep your chin up, I’m sure you’ll be excited again soon! Good luck to you!
Post # 5
@emerald_ivy: Good thing you have found the bee for support 🙂
Maybe start printing out things you like and put them into a binder to look at later? Take some time to relax and enjoy your engagement!
Post # 6
It’s ok to feel those. But in the end the big picture is that you are getting married to your FI!