(Closed) Very emotional this month (NWR) LONG

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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520 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@NurseMandie:  I just wanted to give you a big hug. I know how hard these dates are. It’s only been a year and the pain is still fresh. It takes a few years to make it through these dates without the unexpected crying. At some point you will be able to celebrate her life without all the pain attached. It’s not easy. I just want you to know that what you are feeling is very normal and actually healthy. It’s much harder on those who try to avoid grieving and push it away. Cry it out and let your Fiance cry on your shoulder when he needs to. I’m sending hugs and prayers your families way.

Post # 4
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2551 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

What a horrible way to lose a loved one- Sending you loving thoughts & hugs! I have not lost a parent but my Fiance lost his father between thanksgiving//xmas 6-7 yrs ago, and his brother as well maybe 10-15 years ago. All I can say is that it does seem to get better, but unfortunately those times of the year will always put you into a funk. Every year like clockwork around those times he starts feeling down, constantly like he needs to cry and think’s somethings wrong with him until he realizes it’s the anniversary of one of their deaths and is okay to let it out. To combat his blues we always try to do something to remember them- for his brother we call up his other siblings & take shots together over the phone toasting him… Might be a little too early for something like that for ya’ll two but maybe you can think about his mom & what she might have wanted to celebrate her life & wonderful memories of her so in the next few years you can make a tradition to remember all her amazingness… Crying in this scenario at this point in time is really the best thing you can do… Just be there to support each other without judgment…

Post # 6
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412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’m so sorry 🙁 My great grandma (mom’s grandma) passed away on my mom’s birthday when I was younger, and she was not able to celebrate her day for a while. She had been essentially raised by her grandma, and it was very hard for her.

We always tried to make other holidays extra special for her (mother’s day, Christmas, etc.)

I hope that you are able to eventually find some peace and get relief from grieving. One year is not a long time, so those wounds are still fresh 🙁

Thinking of you and your FI!

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