- 11 years ago
- Wedding: August 2009
A month back I wrote a post titled “Sincere wedding photo comments…I know I shouldn’t feel hurt but I do!” and now there is part 2 to this story.
Sorry to whine and complain about this one person AGAIN but I really just need to vent since I’m too chicken to confront her face to face!
So it’s been a month and a half after my wedding. The day finally comes and I get my wedding album from the photog!! I had it shipped to my office since we don’t have a doorman at our apartment and then the mail just sits in the post office. I know I should have waited till I got home but I just couldn’t. I LOVED IT!! I was worried at first but when I saw it I was totally satisfied.
Anyways since I have already opened the package I couldn’t really hide it and later on today my evening class teacher (I’ll call her Miss S.) saw it so I just had to let her take a look…
Just a little background story Miss S. has known me for 2 years but has never met my husband. When I shared some sneak peeks of my wedding photos she made super rude remarks about his looks and his weight. One time would be fine with me but since then she always makes fun of him (to me…in class) and hinting I should have found someone better.
Well today within 5 minutes she managed to make the most hurtful comments that made me regret my decision of not waiting till I got home to open the package.
First she announces “Oh they should have titled the album “Strange Marriage” or “Beauty and the Beast” instead of naming the album “Congratulations”.
Next page. The photographer did some Photoshop magic to make the images look dreamy, her comment to that was “Why didn’t he trim off your husband’s fat face and body?”.
Next page. Her reply to a candid photo of my husband, “This photo is horrible!”
Next page. Her reply to a candid photo of me during the ceremony, “Weird expression on your face, were you bored?”
Next page. Her comment about my traditional wedding attire, “Oh my who picked this pattern? Looks like an old bed cover…well I guess you guys got married in the country side, not many trendy options”. (That gown costs my husband’s parents a fortune to rent and we all agreed on loving that one.)
Last random comment. “I always pictured your husband to be super handsome and slim, you got to put him on a diet!” (she was joking because he share the same name with some rock star/model from the 90s).
Anyone who knew my husband knows he has had weight issues on and off ALL his life. He gained around 60 pounds when he quit smoking and managed to lose 30 pounds before the wedding. But he still is around 40 pounds over his ideal weight. It was so hard for him and he was super happy to see himself 30 pounds lighter in the wedding photos
From my last post a lot of bees gave me super helpful advice to hint my rude friends which they have all improved and seemed to understand my subtle message…except for Miss S who still thinks it’s ok to say whatever. Since I’m too chicken to approach her in a more direct way (my hints were apparent though) over the past month I have considered changing classes…it might sound like I’m immature and can’t deal with a small issue but I feel like she has gradually been getting too comfortable with commenting on my personal life that are beyond interest and areas of the class (i.e. me and my husband’s future plans, my job, the city I plan to move to etc).
One last thing…she helped herself into showing my album to other random people (like the receptionist and another random student).
I’m not crying this time…I’ve just had it! Sorry! Just needed to VENT!!