(Closed) Very hurtful comments about my wedding photos (again!!)

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

i’d switch classes, you don’t need that toxicity. i cannot imagine saying that to anyone!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

wow I dont even know what to say to this …. well i would know what i would say to Miss S if i was you but I am pretty sure i shouldnt post that here lol.

Sounds like to me that perhaps she is just bitter about her own life and feels the need to bring you down with her. You know what they say Misery loves company.

Congrats to your husband for losing so much weight before your wedding & you know what so what if he is a little overweight, so what if he doesnt fit her ideal mold. He is odviously fits the mold of just what you were looking for in life and that is all that matters.

Personally I would confront her about being out of line about sharing details of your personal life with others as well as just being rude.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I think I responded on your other post… But when I was reading this: I actually screamed at the screen (like a crazy person) “What a cow”.

After she said “Beauty & the Beast” I would have snatched the book up & told her where to stuff it.

She needs to know she cannot spew such awful comments. She sounds very bitter & jaded. Instead of being happy for you, she’s decided to piss on your parade. Will speaking to her change anything or is she just that ignorant that she’ll think you’re the rude one?

IMO: That person is a monster. A completely monster! Don’t show her anything ever again. I wouldn’t even look her way… I could never, ever speak about someone else’s husband the way that she spoke about yours.

Keep the vents coming if you feel the need 🙂 I’m always here & I’ll continue to be enraged on your behalf.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

can you go to hr maybe and file a harrassment charge against her? it is borderline harrassment due to her statements as well as her showing people that you don’t know your pictures and a violation of your privacy.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I remember your previous post and I’m so sorry that you are still going through this….how awful!

Miss S. is really inappropriate and it actually sounds like she has crossed a boundary that could put her in serious trouble. Is there a human resources department where she teaches because I would definitely document and report these incidences to them (or her supervisor/boss). You shouldn’t be put in a position where you have to hear these nasty and unsolicited comments from her (or anyone for that matter) AND you shouldn’t be put in a position where you want to say something to her but don’t feel comfortable (someone else of authority should seriously put her in her place).

The comments that she has made sounds like verbal/emotional harrassment which is just as serious as sexual harrassment and things of that nature. I would definitely be in support of you switching classes and getting away from this lady who sounds like she has serious issues.

(((((HUGS)))))

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Whoa… to add to crebre: Did she take the photo album without your permission??? I’d totally bring this up with HR. She can’t talk to you that way… or take your stuff.

Miss S has such a rotten attitude. She had to have known what she was saying would hurt you, but she knew you wouldn’t say anything!

Post # 9
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Worker bee

you’re too nice. “One time would be fine with me but since then she always makes fun of him (to me…in class) and hinting I should have found someone better”.

One time is NOT fine. I might sound harsh here, but honestly… I probably would have started crying in real life!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

shes jealous…

Post # 11
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Busy bee

That is awful.  Hideous.  But is there any chance you could laugh it off (like, literally laugh at her for being such a cliche?)  She is just so absolutely horrible that it is almost to such comedic proportions where the only thing left to do is feel sorry for her for having so few social skills.

It’s like Michael Scott.  As much as everyone wants to pull him aside and tell him that he is a douche, they know it won’t change anything, so all they can do is find someone to roll their eyes with.  I am sure everyone who knows this woman knows she is a beast. 

I wouldn’t ordinarily advocate talking behind someone’s back, but it almost seems like it might be helpful to find out who feels the same way about her as you do so that when she starts again, you can roll your eyes and ice her out.  When in the presence of a lunatic, it is always nice to have someone sane by your side reminding you that you are not the crazy person.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

You really need to confront her immediately, the next time she says something like that about your husband. If you’re afraid to do it to her face, write her a letter, telling her that it is inappropriate, and rude, and unkind for her to speak to you this way.  Ugh!

Please post some of the photos here, so WE can gush over them!  I bet you we will love the photos!  My husband has way more than 40 pounds to lose, but he’s still the sexiest and most handsome man in the world, to me!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Yeah, she sounds jealous/bitter. Is she always this rude? There’s no excuse for those comments. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I totally agree that you should file a complaint with HR!!  I think they would be especially interested in the way she took your album and showed it to people (w/o your permission?), the way she continues to make random comments about your husband & personal life DURING class (sooo unprofessional), AND the way she is creating a hostile work environment for you!! 

I’m so sorry you have to deal with this!  Maybe you should consider confronting her, even though it’s tough, just for the vindication… switch the power dynamics! 

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Dude… I want to punch her in the nose!

What good is brains? Uh…in 50 years we’re all going to be wrinkly & our bodies will be falling apart. I’d choose brains over anything else. Who wants to be with a dope?

She is so superficial. Jocelyn is right: its borderline comical at how ridiculous this person is.

I noticed that you said he’s cute in his own way… don’t let her thoughts get to you! I’m sure he’s an attractive man & he deserves props for starting to take care of his health! 30lbs lost + he stopped smoking? Bravo!  Don’t let her silly opinion make you think your husband is anything but a superstar. 🙂

You can confront this! We’ll back you up in any way we can!

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