(Closed) Very hurtful comments about my wedding photos (again!!)

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

That lady sounds disgusting. You should switch classes and when she asks you why you did, you tell her that she’s rude!

Post # 33
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Wow. What a B. I had somebody at work once tell me my husband wasn’t good-looking enough for me and it really pissed me off. To have somebody rant and rave at me like your teacher did is incredibly rude. Tacky. Obnoxious. Incredibly tasteless. And, unprofessional. Since she does it all the time, I’d tell her, point blank, that it’s nto appropriate for her to say somethign like that. Now, if you’re in college, I doubt it’ll do yoiu much good to complain to a supervisor. At that age, you’re expected to be able to confront issues with your professors. You probably need to meet with her after class and tell her that you really think her behavior is out of line. Or, next tmie she asks, just say, “no…you never have anything nice to say”. it’s true. Man, what a bitch. Seriously.

Post # 34
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Busy bee

I’m kind of confused.  Is this happening at work or at school?  Is there some sort of overlap between where you work and where you are a student?

I think there are different ways to handle this depending on whether this woman is considered your teacher or someone you work with, but I imagine the lines can get blurred in a grad school program.

Post # 35
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

What a B****!!!!!!

I would definitely say something… but if you aren’t comfortable with that I agree with lamb to write her an email!

Is it doable to change classes – how would this affect your future schooling?

I think confronting her instead of running away would benefit you in the long run. This way you still have choice and freedom of classes instead of avoiding Miss. S. and someone really has to let this woman know that she can’t talk about others in this way!

Good luck – keep us posted!

P.S. I really want to punch her in the face for you!

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010 - Carlouel Yacht Club

Ugh, reading what she said literally makes me feel sick to my stomach. I am so sorry that she said those things to you…what a punk! I really hope that you are able to resolve things, whether it is switching classes, or possibly taking action in another way! I feel your pain though, the thought of confronting someone is really uncomfortable! Be brave! She doesn’t have the right to make you feel bad…she should know better!

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with lamb!
I would have so told her off if that was me though! I wouldn’t want someone telling me that my wedding day looked horrible.

I would write her an email & if that doesn’t work, go to someone above her & complain. I would switch out of that class.

Post # 39
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594 posts
Busy bee

I bet she’s jealous. But you should definitely say something to her along the lines of I don’t appreciate you speakign that way about my husband.

Post # 40
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948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay

Good – I am glad you are switching teachers.  This woman is toxic & you do NOT need her in your life!!

Post # 41
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

switch classes she is jealous of you my dear!!!!!! Point blank she is a BITCH! 

Keep your head up there are WEIRD people in this world

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Where does she live so I can slap her?

Seriously she is steaming in jealousy because you are married and also did not invite her to the wedding.  When people make rude comments like that it’s because they are hurting and want you brought down to their level.  In psych class, I learned anger is a secondary emotion to hurt or fear.

honestly, when a normal person sees something they don’t like or approve of, they keep their mouth shut.  She is saying hurtful things over and over to inspire a reaction out of you, and that would be to hurt you. 

When she says someting about his weight, say well there is just more to love and switch classes.

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m glad you are switching classes! I also think that email is very important so she knows that she has crossed a professional line. 

Post # 44
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622 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My advice! She needs to be slapped!!!! Do not let this mean person ruin your memories. If you love your album screw what she has to say!!! Sorry to sound so mean but it’s tha truth

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee

OK, I only read the first few posts, but I would NOT go to HR or your mgr until you have had a frank talk with her.  Keep it professional, but even though it is her bad behavior, you need to make sure you can tell them you tried the remedy the problem before asking them to intervene.

She sounds like she must not be a very happy person in general.  Are you not reacting in the moment, bc you are just in shock?  That happens to me sometimes, even though I am usually sassy.  I would be tempted to say something about, well, no one is perfect, and give her a *meaningful glance, but probably a quick confrontation is what is best to rip of the bandaid.

I actually had some drama w/ a coworker recently, and I am still friends w/ her, but have backed off a LOT, since she has proven herself to not respect my work boundaries, even when I was VERY clear that she was crossing them.

Post # 46
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Blushing bee

To me, it is completely apparent that this lady has a miserable life and no matter how happy she is on the outside she is truly miserable.  She is just making those comments to make herself feel better which is what people like that do – put other people down to bring themselves up. 

I would ignore her and feel sorry for the fact that she is such a sad bitter person. 

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