Very Indesicive on 3 Rings

posted 2 months ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

A few other thoughts.  Do you know what kind of wedding band she will want? Will she want one that fits flush and to possibly solder it to the engagement ring?  That’s really important to some women.  Some of us hate seeing any sort of gap between the 2 rings and others love having a gap. 

Other women want a wedding band that looks good should they decide to ever wear just the wedding band. (Sometimes when traveling, some women will wear just the wedding ring and leave the engagement ring at home.)

For all we know, her Pinterest board is full of modern leafy rings. But I think the reason why so many of us are asking if this is an aesthetic that you are sure she loves is because it’s a very definite “love it or hate it” look. And it’s one that can be challenging to pair with a wedding band depending on what a woman wants out of her wedding band.

Post # 32
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Helper bee

Definitely 3! 

Post # 33
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Newbee

I think 3 looks best, adds a little more sparkle without being too distracting, you would want the center stone to stand out. 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2020

Definitely 1 🙂 I think it’s great proposing with a moissanite as long as you’re honest with her about the specs of the stone. I think she’ll love it, but could always switch it out for a different stone later.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

If you intend on going through with a surprise proposal and picking the ring yourself, make sure you propose with-in the rings alteration/return window. Or find out exactly what she wants/loves. Unless you’re prepared for an upgrade/anniverary ring if she’s into that.

I’d wished that my hubs and I had got to go ring shopping during the proposal period. I like what he picked for me but the style wasn’t practical for me to wear everyday. Thankfully we designed our matching wedding bands together. I’ll eventually get an anniversary ring made to mark a milestone year but for now my wedding band is what I wear most. Just figured I’d add my 2 cents and maybe invoke some thought provoking thoughts you may not have thought of just yet. 
fwiw: I like option 3 a lot, best of luck to you guys! 🙂

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2020

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Ben3 :  I like 2 and 3. Just FYI I am going to tell you something I don’t usually admit to people, I had told him a firm no when he told me his original idea of moissanite or white sapphire. I personally love my ring, 0.66 lab diamond center, but I would have been upset had I gotten a moissanite and would have exchanged or upgraded. The reason is because the times I have seen moissanite I could tell them apart visually, many people won’t know the difference but many would just by looking like in my case. People who are into jewelry would notice the fire is different. 
Many women love their moissanites, they love it’s fire and sparkle and that is wonderful! But make sure your girlfriend loves it too.

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

OP, what is the extent of knowledge you have on the style preferences of your girlfriend? I assume you came up with these based on those, but if not this is a tricky style to present. As some pp have said, it is best to know if she would be okay with moissanite. I personally would be very disappointed as that’s not something I was interested, but many others would love the alternative!

Post # 38
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Honey bee

I like three, but would prefer a simple, thinner band so as not to overwhelm the center stone or limit wedding band options. These are all a very specific style, has she steered you in this direction? I also agree with everyone on the moissanite, and that you shouldn’t pick an alternative stone without discussion or be able to exchange it after the fact. If you can’t do the same size diamond in your budget, be prepared for that to be a disappointment if she wishes to exchange it for a diamond. 

Post # 39
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Bumble bee

I prefer number 3. You should check how she feels about moissanite before buying her one imo, as contrary to another poster, I 100% can tell when a stone is moissanite and see a difference without knowing before hand, it’s very very obvious on videos, which I can post as examples if you would like to see, so I imagine it’s even more obvious in real life. If it really was impossible to tell everyone would be buying them as who wouldn’t want a prefect copy of a diamond for a fraction of the price? But the facts are they are two different stones, they behave differently with light, they look different and most people will be able to tell, especially in large stones, so unless she’s said she prefers or doesn’t mind a moissanite it’s best to ask first or avoid. 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Vineyard Lake

I absolutely love option #1! Those leaves!! 😍

Post # 41
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Helper bee

I agree with PP, I can easily tell the difference between a diamond and a moissy. Make sure she’s okay with that before buying! 
Also the styles are quite specific, so you should also make sure that that’s her style. I like #3 the most!

good luck!

Post # 43
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Helper bee

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Ben3 :  congrats! Let us know what happens ❤️

Post # 45
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Bumble bee

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Ben3 :  Congrats! Did she end up choosing the moissanite?

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