(Closed) VERY informal wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1185 posts
Bumble bee

@Jujubean2014:  My cousin did her wedding for very cheap. She didn’t need a park permit because only 10 people were invited to her ceremony. She hired a photographer for 1 hour, wore a white turtle neck sweater dress, and had a bouquet made. Her husband wore a suit he already owned. 

Invitations were word of mouth of the when and where to cut down on the list. They went to a restaurant later, and everyone paid for their own plate.

It was one of the most beautiful weddings I’ve ever seen 🙂

Post # 4
4494 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My stepsister had a similar wedding. They did get married in a church, but afterward we just went to a local park and grilled BBQ. It was super laid back. We ate on paper plates at picnic tables and just had a portable radio for music. It wasn’t fancy, but it was a fun afternoon and everyone seemed to enjoy it.

I think an open guest list is fine, but how do you plan to announce the event? And what if way more people show up than expected?

Post # 5
1632 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

BYOB…bring your own beer,(picnic) basket, bbq, and blanket.

Let everyone know younare getting married in the park and if they wantbto join you they can. Cake will be provided,  but otherwise they need to pack food, drinks, and bring seatung for themselves.

I wouldn’t send out invites just let everything spread via word of mouth. Either set a time for the ceremony or wait til you have all the important guests arrive.

Post # 6
1554 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Here are some links to quick searches for potluck weddings.



Note: I believe that my friends will be having a potluck wedding in the fall. They’ve rented out one of the local breweries for a few hours on a Sunday (rental rate is under $1k) so all of the beer is included in the rental. They’ll also probably have it be potluck and we have so many great cook-friends that I’m sure it will be a great party!

Post # 7
1185 posts
Bumble bee

@Jujubean2014:  Park permits can range from $85-120+, have to be approved by certain city officiants, and requests need to be submitted at least 90+ days in advance with money orders and paperwork, at least where I live. You’re also not allowed to consume alcohol at city parks.

It’s a huge pain in the ass. I went through this for my graduation party.

If you look at city ordinances, you will find out what the law is about having a gathering of more than a certain amount of people. For my city, anything over 25 people has to be approved. 

State parks, however, are usually a lot easier to book, have pretty pavillions, and you’re usually allowed to have alcohol allowed, as long as it’s not in glass bottles.

I went through all of this trouble for a big gathering, and ended up only having 8 people show up for my damn party. In retrospect, I wish I would’ve did what my cousin did.

Hope this helps. 

Post # 9
1185 posts
Bumble bee

@Jujubean2014:  I forgot, sometimes with a certain amount of people, you have to provide event insurance, and if your guests even want to BYOBeer, you have to get a serving permit as well. 

I am sorry I am assuming that your guests want to consume their own alcohol at the post-wedding party. I just thought I’d let you know I’ve had to do extensive research on this about 18 months ago, and it seems to be ‘city norm.’

Post # 10
1185 posts
Bumble bee

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@Jujubean2014:  nope! She had the beautiful simplicity of where she chose to be married as the scenery. I’ll email you pictures if you’d like, I do not think my cousin would like her pictures public 🙂

Post # 11
543 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

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@Jujubean2014:  I live right across the street from a park where people hold informal weddings all the time. Most do very simple decorations like tableclothes and small vases of flowers on the tables, some streamers or balloons. I like the idea of an open invitation, but it might make it stressful as far as arranging for how much food and drink to have!

As far as alcohol goes, it really depends on the city. Here, alcohol is permitted as long as you don’t have any glass bottles.

Post # 12
3081 posts
Sugar bee

@Jujubean2014:  If it is going to be a potluck style, I would leave it as an open invitation (although you may want to call around and get a general head count). I would bring a couple big items and let everyone else bring what they want.

A park would be a great location unless you know someone who would be willing to let you use their backyard. Also check into community rooms at parks, schools, churches etc.

Post # 16
9538 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

The reception is usually the expensive part, so I’d do a cake and punch receptions. Grocery store cake and DIY punch. Simple park ceremony followed by cake and punch! Easy peasy!

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