(Closed) VERY informal wedding?

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 19
632 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Jujubean2014:  I think it’s great that you’re trying to have the wedding you can afford. If you were only inviting your closest friends and family, I’d say a potluck would be okay if most of your guests were local and really wanted to do it. Maybe a larger potluck would work if you told people ‘hey, swing by KFC and pick up a bucket of chicken instead of a gift’ but even then it would require some planning so you have enough food and drinks plus a little variety. Usually in that situation the couple and their parents or whoever does the brunt of basic cooking and guests bring whatever they feel like so you’d still have to pay for food. 

If it’s an open invitation then I don’t think you can really lean on guests to provide food and drinks for an unknown number of people. I agree with a pp’s suggestion of just having a cake and punch reception – if you can’t afford to have food, don’t! If you can afford food then a BBQ sounds like a good idea. 

I think it would be a good idea to make a guest list. If I were you I’d stick with close friends and family because a big guest list will not be cohesive with your casual budget wedding. The closer people are to you the less they’ll expect if you stress that it’s very casual and the more they’ll be willing to help out. 

For the invites, just send an email to your nearest and dearest. It gets the point across and it’s casual and relaxed in a way paper invites aren’t. 

Post # 20
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I would not do invitations for such an informal event.

I would make a facebook event page and add people, and let those outside of fb find out via word of mouth.

My friend did what you just did and they had a gathering at a park that had natural springs. They told everyone to bring their swimsuit.

If you choose to do invites I would word it as a “come celebrate our love at the park” or something like that. Exclude the word wedding. They will obviously know you’re getting hitched.

Don’t end up with half your guests wearing stuffy wedding clothes or “churchy” clothes. Word of mouth is vital.

Another cool thing I’ve seen is where couples invite everyone to a potluck picnic and then surprise the guests who show up by getting married. No expectations and no hurt feelings!

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