(Closed) Very Much Over It

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
2414 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We’re paying for most of our own wedding and I really feel as if that’s the most stressful part, if my parents had handed me the money and said “go plan a wedding” it would remove so much stress, but, alas, that’s just not feasible.

The great part about it is that you have plenty of time to scour the best deals and cut the budget. I got injured at work and am on Workers Comp which pays much less…we had to make some serious cuts to our budget which included DIY invites, a David’s Bridal dress, no fancy venue chairs, and a very basic floral budget, but oh well.

It really is stressful to pay for it, especially if all the money isn’t in the bank for right now. I would just take a deep breath and think of ways you can make it work. For us, that meant coming to terms with putting a few thousand on credit cards if need be, mainly due to my injury since that was a totally unforseen financial hit that we didn’t plan on, but luckily it looks like it won’t need to come to that.

We also are putting off ALL unecessary expenditures. That means that I will wear FMIL’s wedding band (FI’s great grandmothers) in lieu of purchasing my own (we will get mine after the wedding) and we have the most basic photo package, opting to put off the cost of the album and prints until after the wedding. We also plan to not buy thank you gifts for our parents until after the wedding as well. All of that ended up saving several thousand dollars….

Post # 4
Member
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

If that’s what you want, it is what you should do!!!

It’s too much money to throw away on stress. Throw everyone else’s expectations out the window and do what YOU want. Translate that into the rest of your life decisons, too, and you’ll find yourself loving life.

Post # 5
Member
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve been procrastinating on my DIY projects and am going to be freaking out about it soon. I need to START on my chair sashes – 160 of them. That was to be my March project, but I doubt I’ll finish them this month. Boo. Once I get started on them, I think I’ll be fine, but I’m just so unsure about them and am a little scared to start. Urgh. 

And, yes, there never seems to be enough money around. 

Post # 6
Member
346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have days when I’m overwhelmed and I realize that the wedding is not as important as the marriage. Take time and reconnect with life step away fom wedding planning for a couple days and go out with your Fiance and friends and have some fun.

Post # 7
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3580 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@dooneybell:  Honeypie, there are other vendors.  Did you already pay them? 

At some point, you have to give the reigns over to your fiance and say ‘your turn’.  And if he/she doesn’t want to pitch in, then you might want to ask what the point is.  I mean, not to be a poop on this holiest of blogs but its a cultural institution that at one time (for us peasants) was nothing more than a priest and a cake, you know what I mean?  Now there are so many details that we can lose sight of what is important.  You and your partner.  The rest of the crap can honestly just be tossed to the side.  Who CARES if the paper isn’t perfect.  For what?  For an invite/menu/thank you card that you glanced at once every 5 years (if that)? When in doubt, put the whole thing to the side for a week and wait until you’re inspired to start again.  Believe me, there is still plenty of time to plan on a budget.  🙂

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