(Closed) Very nervous to post for engagement photos (any tips?)

posted 4 years ago in Full Figured
Post # 2
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I was super nervous too! The engagment photos turned out amazing, even I thought I looked alright. Wear something comfortable that you feel good in. Honestly, let your photographer know your concerns. They will know how to photograph you so that you look your best. Remember that your Fiance and family love you as you are and it’s good to look like yourself in your photos. Don’t feel nervous or worried, smile and enjoy your pictures with your FI!

Post # 3
197 posts
Blushing bee


i know the feeling, I was in a panic over how I would look in my wedding photos especially my arms (my worst area) but in the end on the day I stopped caring, I was just so happy to marry my soulmate I just didn’t care. Maybe get a basic photographer package to shoot you and hubby and ask a family member/s to get shots of the guests etc. Or your could put disposable cameras on the table for guests to take fun shots not of you and the groom. 

We got basic photo package and few hours of video and a relative take “party” shots.

my advice just be confident and a properly fitted wedding dress can do wonders for how you feel 🙂 

congradulations and good luck! 



Post # 4
294 posts
Helper bee

I was incredibly nervous. My husband and I never take pictures and are very unnatural in front of the camera. The best thing that worked for us was to kiss and talk and joke and act like the photographers weren’t there. Most all the shots are candids, but they captured real emotion instead of stiff awkwardness.  

Post # 5
733 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Ahhhh we’re having ours done this Friday and I am super concerned about the same thing 🙁 This session was already rescheduled once due to me being paranoid. oops…

Post # 6
879 posts
Busy bee


1) Wear Something That You Feel Good In: Confidence radiates through pictures. If you’re uncomfortable in what you’re wearing, that’s also going to translate. Pick something that makes you feel awesome, that other people have told you is flattering, and that draws attention away from any areas that you’re really uncomfortable with. Also consider wearing a body shaper of some kind — I recommend Rago. It won’t make you look 4 sizes smaller, but it can smooth out any muffin top/undie lies/bra back lines that make pictures more flattering.

2) Talk to Your Photographer About Your Concerns: As much as it may feel like it right now, you’re not the first plus-sized bride in the world, and you’re certainly not the first one with concerns about your body that your photographer has worked with. I promise. Talk to them about any areas you’re particularly self concious about so that if you don’t like the way your arms look, they don’t pose you for a bunch of close up with your arms wrapped around FI’s neck.

3) Relax and Have Fun: With any luck, you’ll only take engagement pictures once and they’ll look so much better if you take a deep breath and relax. Have fun with Fiance, get him to crack a joke. Fiance and I were rigid with nerves during our shoot and our photographer stopped everything and asked us both to think of the color the other one was thinking of and to say it on the count of three. We biffed it, and guessed completely different colors. It broke the tension and made the rest of the session fly by.

Beginning of the shoot:

End of the shoot:

Post # 7
530 posts
Busy bee

FutureMrsHall15:  Wear something you love and makes you feel pretty! We did an engagement shoot and most of my favourite pictures are our candids, it just looked and felt like us. Make sure your photographer is someone you are comfortable with, and like his/her work.  It’s also a great way to see if you will like them as your wedding photographer. Ours was amazing, we did our pictures in a snowstorm and it was cold and freezing, but the pictures turned out amazing. Here are a few I was a street size 18 in these pictures. 





Post # 8
301 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - The Vineyard and Winery at Lost Creek, VA

flowerofeden:  your pictures are stunning!!

Post # 9
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

My photographer had great tips, things like shoulders up and straight, turn slightly, weight on back foot, triangles with your arms (instead of straight on, arms by your sides). Look online for tips on posing and you’ll see some great advice. However, your photographer should be aware of your concerns and your greatest ally! Most importantly, relax and try to have fun! You are standing next to the person you are about to marry!!

Post # 10
7042 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

FutureMrsHall15:  I feel your pain, I’m super short and currently a 12/14 – I too hate photos of myself. As a wedding photographer, the #1 piece of advice I can give is dress for your body!! That goes for everyone, not just us girls who are a little bigger. You have to be comfortable in whatever you’re wearing, if you’re not the discomfort will show. One thing that’s really important to remember is that while I naturally want to shoot in angles/poses that will be the most flattering, ill-fitting clothing is something that just can’t be hidden (unless you want to literally the same pose over and over again). 

I am a HUGE fan of Jag Jeans (goggle them!). They are pull-on jeans and sit high enough to not give you a muffin top (without being “mom jeans”) or your butt crack hang out and they also don’t have a front button so shirts lay nice and flat. They are flatting on ALL body types. Along with that, make sure to play up the parts you like, and cover what you don’t. It never fails, there is always that one client who shows up in a tank top or strapless dress and says to me “I really don’t like my arms”. OR..comes in shorts and says “I don’t want to sit because it makes my thighs look big”. A good rule of thumb is “if you can see it in the mirror, you will see it in your photos”. Wear appropriate undergarments!! 

One of my last engagement sessions the couple was a little bigger. She started the session is the most adorabe and flattering dress! Then half way through she changed into super cute shorts and a tee. The shorts were WAY too tight and resulted in a very noticeable muffin top (hey, it happens to the best of us!). Unfortunately, it leaves me two choices – put them into the same pose over and over again to hide it….or shoot how I normally would giving them lots of variety but the muffin top shows. 

Most importantly go into it ready to have fun. Have a couple of drinks before – or depending on the location show up a little early and have a couple drinks while you wait for your photographer to show up. Let them know ahead of time 

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