(Closed) Very painful friend breakup and how to deal with it?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I feel your pain and I have the weddingbee threads to prove it lol. I know exactly what you’re going through and how hard it is. I know you care about your friend but you really have to do what’s best for your emotional health and happiness. Often timens when women talk about avoiding toxic relationships it’s in reference to romantic relationships but platonic ones are no different. At this point in time your friend is not someone who wishes you well, and she’s putting you and your relationship down for her own benefit. When she decides to come back into your life, the reality is that her negative feelings will likely remain under the surface of her friendship. That’s just the nature of jealousy and insecurity. Until she’s ready to deal with her own issues, your happiness is going to be her punching bag. I know grieving the friendship is painful, but use this no-contact period to nurture the evenly balanced friendships in your life and meditate on how to establish boundaries with your frenemy in the future. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

An 11 year age gap isn’t necessarily a red flag, but its the only one you’ve focused on here, of “many.” Is there another reason why you feel their relationship is unhealthy, and why you find her SO so creepy? 

Post # 4
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Busy bee

It sounds like right now this friend is a toxic friend to you. Talking behind people’s backs and telling lies and stuff is drama and it’s not cool. And it’s hurtful. Just because things have gone south right now it doesn’t mean it’ll always be like this. If she really is acting out because of a bad relationship, there’s a good chance that once she’s out of it she’ll feel quite differently and you may get a very sincere apology. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

This is a duplicate thread so I am going to go ahead and close it but if everyone could kindly visit OP’s original thread that would be great 🙂 

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