(Closed) VERY PERSONAL…. upset (too much information too…. lol)

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 33
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

You’re talking to someone who is a serious baker/cook. ๐Ÿ™‚ I understand saying yes, I just say it a lot less often!

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i had two kids, im tiny and i have wrinkly loose skin on my stomach… my fiance met me after it happened, we made a child together loose skin and all, and then he proposed to me and we are getting married may 21 2011… he is buying me a car this month, and when things have settled down and we can save some money he is letting me have a tummy tuck that here costs 4000 dollars… he doesnt care if i get it or not he still loves me and fights for me when he has too, i have broken up with him over my own self esteem issues and he always fights to stay… men that love arent shallow and will not even see your imperfections, embrace who are, become a stronger woman, and then decide what you want to do… 

 

 

if a tummy tuck is what you want and you can come to canada for it if it is cheaper ill be glad to help you out around the city and stuff, i know the feeling and ill help everyone i can

 

 

and seriously congrats on losing the weight i bet he is so proud of you… now you just need to work on being proud of yourself!!!

Post # 36
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

haha that was a funny non pun… i had a breast reduction last year cause my breast got enormous from child bearing… they were already big but they got bigger it was hurting my back a lot and i hated the way i looked… i looked terrified the day of, my Fiance took a picture of me actually but i had a huge smile the first time i saw my new smaller boobs, it would worth everything i went through and honestly in hindsight, there was really nothing to it, i went in, didnt feel anything, woke up in a bit of pain, got some meds, felt great but a bit tired from anesthetic… but if i had to do it again i would do it in a heart beat… really wasnt that terrible i would think mouth surgery would be much scarier and ive had that too eeeek and will be having it again soon!

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Have you looked at lingerie yet? OMG they make the cutest things.  Try corsety tops that make the boobs pop up and out.  It’s hard not to feel awesome in lingerie, and if it’s covering your trouble spots hopefully that gives you a little confidence.  After a few times in the rough with lignerie, having your partner respond positively – hopefully it gives you some reassurance to feel sexy in the buff!

Post # 40
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

surprise! half the sexy is feeling like its a fun little secret till.. BOOM! (or ta da!)

Post # 42
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

seriously, Congratulations on your weight loss.. You look fab.  I’m sorry that you dont like what you see in the mirror though.. you should definately speak to a doctor and see what can be done.

p.s.  DEFINATELY check out the lingerie section. heehee

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

I think you’ve gotten some great advice here about talking to a doctor as far as potential surgery goes and about checking into some sexy lingerie ๐Ÿ˜‰

I know what you mean, though, about still feeling like your old self. I lost 40 pounds or so back in college and I’m still coming to terms with being comfortable as my new, skinny mini self, so you’re not alone!

Mostly just wanted to chime in and tell you how INCREDIBLE you look! Major kudos to you for all the hard work and to your mister for being the amazingly supportive guy he must be. If he was willing to be there for you throughout your weight loss, I’m sure he thinks you’re even hotter now! I wouldn’t hide how uncomfortable you’re feeling about your body from him, though. I’m sure he would understand and you wouldn’t want him to start taking it personally. Give him some credit — he loves you, lady, and you deserve it!

Post # 45
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Your post brought up so many things I felt before that I almost wanted to cry. I had my first child very young and gained almost 100 lbs during pregnancy. After pregnancy, I was left with less than perky girls and TONS of skin on my belly. At that time in my life, I had never owned a bikini. And I was still very, very young.

It was hard. Sometimes I didn’t even like to look at myself. I had a very nice shape in clothes, but naked I just felt gross. And it sucks to feel that way about yourself. One thing I learned, that guys don’t really see our bodies the way we do. Second, I had to figure out a way to love the body that I had because, well, I’m stuck in it.

For me, working out helped A LOT. As my body firmed up, I found other things I liked. For example, I learned that my legs are awesome, and a back can be just as sexy as a belly.

And, then eventually when I couldn’t stand it anymore I broke down and had a tummy tuck, but that was my VERY last resort. After the surgery, I almost died from an infection, and that was hard and scary. My tummy does look better than before, but’s it’s not perfect and I exchanged loose skin for a HUGE scar. And I almost died. I don’t say that to discourage you if you want to choose surgery. I think for many women it can be a positive thing, but I would encourage you to research it througly and not just the good after pictures. ๐Ÿ™‚

So, I really can’t say it was worth it (the surgery) or that I feel this great difference or that my stomach looks THAT much better than before. Yes, I own a bikini now and, yes, I might even wear it in public one day (lol…), but my life is so much MORE than just how I look naked. So, I dunno… there are girls with perfect boobs who feel ugly or fat, or whatever, so beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder.

On the flipside, I feel LOADS better about myself since I lived. lol…  Sure, I have bad days, like every other woman, but for the most part I realize that life is short and we have to change what we can, and accept what we can’t change. I accepted that I am who I am and I am beautiful. I don’t hate my flaws anymore. I take them as part of me.  Everything about me is beautiful even if not perfect, firm or smooth. And you are too. I hope one day you will truly be able to see that. Hugs!

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