(Closed) Very Petite Women, How do you Deal with These Comments?

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

People that dont fit perfectly into a bell curve will always get commented on, sadly.

If your tall “how tall are you, did you play basketball?

If your old “How is it working with all these springn chickens”

And your getting the young/shorter comments.

Not sure there is much you can do except to learn to use it to your advantage.  Students may be able to relate to you better because while you are still an authority, you wont be totally intimidating. You will be more “familiar”.

There isnt much you can say to people because it wouldnt be good career wise to be a smart ass. But you could say things like “yes, I am short, but that allows me to really connect with my students better as I am their height” 

soon enough you wont get the young comments so that will pass, but it is tough. I have gotten the young comments a lot as I am sure most everyone has at one point or another.

sounds like you are already doing a killer job at everything you can.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MsBlackberry:  If it makes you feel any better I am 5’9 and I get mistaken for one of my high school students ALL THE TIME.  I was dressed more causally at a weekend school event and I when I tried to enter the teachers room I was told to get get my teacher because students werent allowed in there… really???

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MsBlackberry:  i get your frustration – i’m asian, 4’11”, have had people saying stuff to me at school like “how’s the weather down there?” haha very funny. i know that in your profession, the seemingly lack of authority your appearance gives you might infuriate you sometimes, but honestly i believe that as you get into your 40s/50s you will laugh about this and be glad! my parents went on their honeymoon aged 24, and in europe were always IDed for drinks (where the legal age is 18!). these days they still look young for their age, and my mum is often taken for being up to 10 years younger than she is. 

embrace it because one day you’ll be thankful 🙂

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MsBlackberry:  oh oops. i kind of said what you didn’t want to hear! but i have no good advise so i thought i’d try the cheering up route!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MsBlackberry:  I am sure it does feel that way, but it always feel more when it is you because you are the one living it everyday.  And your right, its probably because they are embarassed for what they were about to do and are kind of floundering around.

My Darling Husband is nearly 7 feet. We get strangers, not even coworkers/friends/kids etc come up to him all the time asking how tall he is and if he played basketball and “how the weather is” etc. If we are out in public for the day, he will get it a minimum of 6 times from strangers. This is not including comments from friends etc. the only people who dont comment are his immediate family members because they are tall as well.

 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@ThreeMeers:  I agree…people from all spectrums get comments like this.

I get it for being short, skinny, blonde, having freckles….. I don’t think people mean to be insulting so I don’t take it personally. It is just annoying after awhile.

 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

@MsBlackberry:  Response: “That’s weird, I totally thought you were one of the mothers! I was wondering why I saw you around all the time!”

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

@MsBlackberry:  Why is it okay to point out to a stranger that they are freakishly short, so much so that you COULD NOT HELP commenting? It is not socially acceptable to do that with weight (unless they are very thin, and even then most people would consider that rude), attractiveness (heckling/sexual harrassment anyone?), or any other physical feature. Would you go up to someone and say, “WOW! You have the longest nose I’ve ever seen! What is it like living with THAT? Can you even see straight?”

Agree with this.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MsBlackberry:  Yeah that’s got to be really annoying. I hate when people comment on things like that as if it’s something you can control. I’m naturally thin (though I’ve filled out decently since high school and college) and people would always comment on it…”you’re so skinny!” “do you even eat?” And then when they’d see it had to do with my metabolism because I’m actually always eating they’d say “Wow where does all that go? It definitely doesn’t go to your butt or your legs cuz you’re flat and have twigs for legs”…oh, okay thanks everyone! Some people don’t have social skills! I’m tall as well and went through my growth spurt very early. I remember feeling awkward and irritated when people would comment on my height back then. People are lame

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m 5’1 and these kinds of “wow, you’re so cute/short/little” have never bothered me. I rather like being petite and people commenting on my height doesn’t even make me flinch.

Why does this bother you guys so much?

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