(Closed) Very Petite Women, How do you Deal with These Comments?

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Rustic mill, historical site

I feel ya.

I’m 31, and I still get carded (legal drinking age is 18, not that I drink, but to get into whatever place we’re going to).    I don’t really find it THAT annoying, I mostly laugh it off and say I’ll appreciate it when I 40.

I have a 3 year old son, I’m 5’4″ and just under 100 lbs and I LOOK young.   I was at a dance class last week and talking to another student and she looked kind of horrified when I was talking about finding time to dance, teach Zumba, work, take care of a house  AND have a 3 year old.    She seriously thought I was a 17 year old hs  student, lol.   

I used to be very flat chested (thanks to implants I’m now a B cup) and that certainly didn’t help with the commentary.   Even friends would poke fun at me, and I think that’s the hardest, not coming from strangers who don’t necessarily know any better (well, sometimes they should keep their mouths shut but really, who can blame someone when the first impression they get is how I look and I DO look young)

Post # 33
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Newbee

Iam 27 small and lean..I have 2 yr old baby.When ever i take her outside people look at me

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@MsBlackberry:  Honestly, unless you’re dead average, it seems like you’ll cop rude comments from some people. I’m 5’11 and my whole life, I’ve had variations of “wow, you’re so tall? Do you play basketball? How do you find men taller than you? How’s the weather up there?” etc. Don’t even get me started on what people say when they see my feet (I wear a size 11 shoe).

I’m also a teacher and I’ve occasionally had comments like “lucky you don’t teach the little ones, you’d have to walk around on your knees!”. I just try to ignore it and TRY to remember the benefits of my height (which can seem few and far between).

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Respond simply “I guess I didn’t take as long to be perfect” haha

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m not a teacher but I have that same problem. I’m 5’2″ with a slim but curvy build. I am also blonde and have a young looking face. I’m 37 and I still get ID’ed. People generally do a double take when they see my driver’s license.  Yeah, it’s annoying because if it’s the weekend and I’m not in my work clothes, quite often people I deal with think I’m a teenager or young adult and don’t want to give me that time of day when I’m out shopping or at the bank. I work as a professional and do feel that I do get passed over for promotional type things because my managers forget I’m in my 30’s!!

I have a 17 year old from a previous relationship and people who just meet us assume we are boyfriend and girlfriend or siblings.  I hope that when I’m in my 50s I’ll not care as much or be happy to look young. 

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@LyndaButterfly:  I am in my 50’s and people think I am much younger.  It’s a perk after all the “short” comments.  😉

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think everyone has something they wish people wouldn’t comment on. l have a ridiculous baby face, I look very young. When a coworker was congratulating me on my engagement, my boss walks by and goes “How old are you? I guess you are old enough to be engaged” Gee, thanks for your approval? 

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m not even short and I look my age, I just happen to work with people who could be my parents/grandparents. Like you, I am professional and so forth.

Some are really awesome because they give me and my husband advice and treat us like co-workers.

 Others literally called us “kids” and treated us like we’re their children…or like we were incompetent idiots.

It was actually so bad we had to talk to our supervisor about it. It has since stopped. She basically let them know we are more than qualified for the job and we are their equal, not kids.

If it’s so bad, you might want to do the same.

 

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I feel your pain! I used to be a SPED parapro at an elementary school, so I was taller than pretty much all of the students and visibly not one of them. Then I moved up to the high school and… all of the kids think I’m a kid. The teachers all know me, because it’s the high school I attended (and where my mother works) but for the most part the kids all think I’m another kid. My ponytail addiction (formed when I was working with the younger kids who I’d have to run around after) doesn’t help at all.

I have actually gotten to the point where when I tell kids not to run or cuss in the hallway, I always add “I work here, I’m 23” at the end. The students are getting used to it, but I definitely miss my little elementary schoolers.

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