Very self-conscious about pregnancy weight gain

posted 2 months ago in Pregnancy
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Sugar bee
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@softdrink77:  honestly being slender like you are used to, you may see the weight gain faster.  I was the same as you, needing to snack very frequently in the first tri in order to keep the nausea at bay.  Try to not focus on the number on the scale, you are not gaining fat, you are growing a person!  Your blood volume is increasing, boob weight is increasing!  It is completely natural to sort of feel like a blob before you are showing and visibly pregnant, don’t compare yourself to others because everyone gains different in pregnancy (if it’s any sort of relief to you I gained 50 lbs and lost it all by 6m pp without dieting or exercising more than stroller walks).  Cut yourself some slack mama!

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I think you should talk to your doctor about this- both to reassure you that your weight gain is completely fine and to get you some support for your anxiety about it. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

It honestly sounds very normal to me. Like pp said you started off at a lower weight so you may end up gaining more than the “average” – if your doctor isnt concerned then you should try not to be either. IMO it’s pure survival mode when you’re going through morning sickness hell. So eat whatever you can tolerate and dont worry about exercising when you’re feeling so shitty. Hopefully you will start feeling better soon and then you can focus on diet and exercise a little more if you want to.

I was on Zofran too through about 16 weeks…it allowed me to function but even with that I was still vomiting daily and totally zapped of energy. I didnt do any physical activities during that time, and I ate whatever didnt make me want to vom, which a lot of days was Chickfila or Cinammon toast crunch cereal lol. I started feeling better later in the 2nd trimester and I got more active at that point, going on long walks every day which I kept up through the end of the pregnancy. Also started eating somewhat better. By the time I delivered I was in good physical shape thanks to those walks, although I still gained 40 lbs (which was a perfectly healthy # for me though it seemed like a lot on my small frame!). but yeah, prior to 16-17 weeks or so, I spent most days working out of my bed, vomiting, and eating pretty horribly, all of which my doctor knew about and was ok with because of how terrible I was feeling.

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Honey bee
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At this point, you’re in survival mode. Do whatever you can to function and get through the day. Eat what makes you feel better and if you can go for a walk, go for it. But don’t guilt yourself into it. I read a stat that pregnant bodies do as much work laying down as a non pregnant body climbing a mountain. I try to remember that when I try to push myself into doing more than I have the energy for. I’m 21 weeks and honestly have no idea how much weight I have gained. I let my dr weigh me and if he has concerns, I’ll let him bring them up. Although I haven’t thrown up, I am still in survival mode and have to take frequent naps, snack regularly, eat small frequent meals and get headaches if I try to do too much. Most of my snacks are carb heavy because thats what helps the nausea & heartburn.

It’s impossible to know how long this will last, so listen to your body, it knows what to do! Please don’t guilt yourself over weight gain. Take care of yourself and let your body do the rest!

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Honey bee
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@softdrink77:  I’m 6 months PP and had a very similar first tri experience with similar starting stats, though if it helps, I gained more than you at this point and had a very healthy pregnancy. You’re definitely not alone. Once the nausea stopped, I was able to eat and workout close to how I did pre-pregnancy. Despite those healthy behaviors, I ended up gaining a lot of weight during my pregnancy. On the positive side, I didn’t get any stretch marks and am back in my pre-pregnancy clothes.

I know it’s really hard to see the scale go up. I struggled a lot with the weight gain during my pregnancy and no amount of being told it was healthy made me feel better (though it IS healthy and a lot of slim, fit women gain a lot). What did help me a bit was reminding myself that this was just a season in my life and that I would be able to challenge myself after my LO arrived. I thought for sure with how negatively I felt about my body during pregnancy that I’d have a negative postpartum experience, but honestly felt a lot better during that stage. Our bodies are pretty darn incredible. I hope your experience improves, but if not, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. 

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Bumble bee
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Bee, I’m sorry you’re having such a difficult pregnancy.  Remember, every pregnancy is different, weight gain patterns are different, and that’s okay!

Remember that your body is doing something totally miraculous!  I think everything wil work out just fine!

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Sugar bee
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I’m currently 38+5 and my experience with weight gain in pregnancy is that, barring extreme indulgence/restriction, it’s a total crapshoot and your body will need to do what it needs to do. Some people (me included) are lazy and eat a lot of crap and don’t gain a lot, other people are active and eat well and gain 2x the recommended amount. Your experience with eating sounds SO NORMAL for this stage! Bodies are all so different, and will do what they need to do, so as hard as it is, try not to stress about it. Hormones are a beast, so just try to take it one day at a time. I hope you feel better soon. 

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@Charliejeorge:  “I read a stat that pregnant bodies do as much work laying down as a non pregnant body climbing a mountain.” THIS ALL DAY

OP, please please try to stop weighing yourself at home. Let the doc keep up with it. What you are doing growing that baby is an incredible feat and that’s all you need to think about. Be kind to yourself!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Totally was up 10# by 15 weeks with both of my kids. And was up 20 by 20 weeks.

I am naturally slim, but muscular, and have always been that way. By the end of both of my pregnancies I gained a total of 50lbs each time. Generally it worked out to just over a pound per week of pregnancy. Literally every one of my other friends gained 25-30# or less, so I gain significantly more than most. However, given my pre-pregnancy weight (5’7″, 135#) and how I carry my pregnancy weight, my doctors were never concerned. My kids were 8# and 8#5oz at birth, and neither time I had GD.

I am blessed to have a metabolism that allows me to eat whatever I want but still struggle to gain weight outside of pregnancy. I also have to snack CONSTANTLY when pregnant or else I feel incredibly sick. It’s a level of hunger I don’t experience outside of pregnancy, and I can eat as much as a linebacker. But, I found that nearly all of my pregnancy weight was gone within a year, aside from a few pounds that I attribute to the increased breast tissue from nursing. I’m not sure how much of this can be attributed to my metabolism, but also I have very thirsty babies and nurse a ton. And while I eat like crap, I also don’t eat nearly as much as I should because life as a mom is busy.

If you’re concerned, you can always address this with your doctor. But, in my experience, and the experience of others, if there’s a concern, it will be brought up to you by them first. If you’re typically slimmer when you get pregnant, you will put on more weight than someone who normally walks around with a higher BMI than you. When you’re pregnant, your body holds fat differently as a protective measure to keep baby growing. Additionally, your blood volume increases by 50%, you have an increase in breast tissue, and you’re growing a human AND a whole new organ (placenta). 

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Bumble bee
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Similar to you I was constantly nauseous but rarely actually sick throughout the first tri and the only thing that kept me semi-functional (for work) was snacking on processed carbs…constantly. Vegetables made my stomach roil even thinking about them.

But it passes (assuming not HG) and the day I walked past the salad bar in the office cafeteria and thought “mmh that looks good” I basically fell to my knees with joy. I gained little during the second tri and then packed on the pounds again in the third. Total I gained ~25 lb (started at 115). I listened to what my body wanted (within reason…I still ate everything in moderation once past first tri). I was vegetarian pre-pregnancy, but craved meat 2nd and 3rd tri, so I started eating meat again. Due to SPD I couldn’t exercise, but I was still only moderately conscious of my diet.

I have a friend, similar build to me, that gained over 70 lb — and she’s MORE active and healthier eating than me. Now 2 years out, you’d have no idea who had gained what during pregnancy. 

Bodies do different things during pregnancy and you can’t compare yourself. Giving up control of your body is one of the hardest parts of pregnancy – but it it good practice for what’s to come because babies require giving up A LOT of control!

Share your concerns with your doctor (to be validated that they aren’t worth worrying about) and be kind to yourself. I hated pregnancy (felt like ick the whole time, felt alienated from my body, etc) but releasing yourself from expectations and specific body images does make it less stressful.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
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I’m a very similar height and weight to you (5’4″ and 125) and I found i gained weight in spurts, at least 10 during the first trimester. I gained 30 lbs overall and while it didn’t all melt away instantly (took a good 6 months to get back to normal) I didn’t need to do anything other than est normally and breastfeed to get rid of it. I remember feeling anxious too but do try not to worry – I’ve heard concerning health outcomes from babies where they mother tried to lose weight during pregnancy so I think erring on the side of caution is better. My sister is the same height/weight and she gained 45 lbs during pregnancy and is now slimmer than she was beforehand. Just let your body do it’s thing – it knows what it’s doing. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
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It’s too late for me to edit my original comment, but another thing that is SO important to point out is that the idea of “gain 0.5-1 pound per week” is BS and actual studies show that it SO RARELY happens that way. Bodies aren’t machines. I fell down so many rabbit holes in weeks 6-20 because I lost weight and was regaining so slowly. Well, it then ramped up, and thanks to gaining more per week than “normal” in the 3rd trimester, I’m coming in right where they want me. Similarly, I know SO many people who gain “more than normal” in the first half because sometimes you just need poptarts and crackers to survive, and then things level out and they end up right in the expected range by the end. Furthermore, a LOT of people (especially people who start off at lower weights) gain more than recommended, which should prompt more studies on the subject, but we love shaming women for weight. Anecdotally, every single person I know who has gained in the 30-50 pound range (so more than “normal”) has had absolutely zero issues losing their pregnancy weight, without extreme measures, by 9 or so months PP. 

Post # 15
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Newbee

Nausea absolutely sucks, and you’ve definitely had it worse than I did. With my first I remember feeling like my appetite was completely and totally out of control in the first trimester and also so completely unlike me. I’m not usually an exceptionally “food driven” person I guess but in my first pregnancy first trimester it’s like I became absolutely obsessed with the idea of carbohydrates and avoiding them took every ounce of my will. It was the nausea! 

I really think you need to stop reading threads about how much people have gained (or lost) by specific points in their pregnancy. On some boards they always devolve into people talking about how they actually are only losing weight or whatever.  Completely agree with the PP upthread who said if you start on the slimmer end you may just end up gaining 35 pounds or more.  I can tell you with my first I barely changed my eating from pre-pregnancy, ran and exercised daily, felt fantastic, and gained around 34 pounds.  It was completely and totally out of my hands. I started at 5’7″ 128 and I think that’s just what my body needed! The weight came off postpartum just by resuming my “normal” routine with a newborn.  I wasted so much energy worrying during that pregnancy if I would go over the magical 35 pound mark and it was just such a waste of time and energy and stress. My body just needed to do its thing.  I trust yours is just doing its thing too.  I do hope you feel better soon tho and are able to walk and enjoy life more. 

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