Post # 1
Idk maybe i’ve seem way too many chick flicks and haven’t realized that i’m not like friends of mine…but dang…i’m feeling very undewhelmed with the whole wedding planning etc experience…
we dont have much money and are paying for everything our selves…no one has offered to help with anything not even with the DIY projects.
there was no talks or mentions of engagement party
no one offering to help with DIY projects, no one offering to pay for their bridesmaids dresses flower girl dresses suits nothing… so we have tto pay for that too…yikes yikes yikes
no one has offered to throw a bridal shower or bacholer or bacholeratte party nothing
i thought weddings where supposed to be fun and exciting…girlfriends goign dress shopping having fun girl time, diy craft parties, awesome bridal showers bacholerette.bacholer parties … so far its been vendors not returning phone calls, bridal salon not being able to give me an actual answer on where my dress is at in ordering/arrival, had Maid/Matron of Honor life long friend freak out on me n end our friendship because some one told her that is she didnt have anything nice to say dont say anything at all …cant get ahold of our venue, have to get our invitations made up but my computer has been having issues…the list goes on n on ..just underwhelmed…where and when is the fun supposed to start, that you are supposed to have when you are planning a wedding?
so underwhelmed with the whole wedding experience
cant wait to finally be able to call my Fiance my husband, but not enjoying this whole wedding experience
anyone else feeling underwhelmed?
Post # 3
Elope!!!!! Really, a few days i was feeling exactly like you and if we weren’t so close to the day, i don’t know..
My family doesn’t get it either. My friends aren’t involved. Here’ it’s not tradition to have bridesmaids, Maid/Matron of Honor, bacholerets, etc, etc so i don’t miss it. My mum is kind of involved because i made it happen (!) – she’s helping with favors. Mi sister called me the other day and said horrible, horrible things to me, about how far i’ve gone planning for such a “grand wedding” that they didn’t care about. Honestly, i felt like grabbing my Fiance and the money we’re spending and have a fabulous wedding somewehere, just us and our kids.
Post # 4
Have you asked anyone for help? I’m sure if you do some of your girls would help. As far as paying for their clothing I would ask them how much they are comfortable spending and go from there.
Only one of my bridesmaids is in the same city as I am and she has a lot of personal/medical stuff going on right now so she has been kind of hard to get in touch with. We did however agree to a one Monday a month getting together and do DIY stuff.
Since no one else is here, I’m not having any kind of party or showers.
Sorry you’re feeling this way
Post # 5
@Rivendeler: “Honestly, i felt like grabbing my Fiance and the money we’re spending and have a fabulous wedding somewehere, just us and our kids.” This is exactly how I feel. I am so over the wedding planning thing. If our wedding wasnt so close I would either elope or do the courthouse thing.
@ OP: sorry to be the bearer but it only gets more stressful when the date get closer. But if your really overwhelmed did you ever think of eloping?
Post # 6
I wanted to elope frrom the get go, but my Fiance really really is set on having an actual wedding. Its kinda a big deal to him …he is the first one in his family to get married without a child first. his grandparents got prego at 14 and eloped, his parents prego at 16 and eloped, his sister got prego and eloped/court house wedding, his prother had a child at 18 and 8 yrs later still arent married…so its kinda important to him …i dont want to push him to elope because he will agree just to make me happy and then end up resenting me. plus we are 5months away and are pretty invested financially alrdy …sigh ..
my sister(bridesmaid) is bi polar just turned 18 n moved out for the first time n is in her crazy stage, my future sis in law is a nurse and works 12hr shifts every day, my other future sis in law is in the marine corp and lives outta state 🙁 and she rly seems to be the only one excited and willing to help
and when i ask for help i get the “oh course we will help, it’ll be fun, then when the time comes nothing” just very very over this whole experience of a “wedding” i seriously think that i have such a stupid magical image of how wedding planning is supposed to be cuz all my gf weddings n all these stupid chick flicks …lol i rly wonder if that super happy wedding planning time ever exsists for real
Post # 7
trust me my stupid biological clock has started ticking last yr n i rly rly much rather elope save alll the money from wedding n just start our family alrdy