Post # 1
We’re thinking of taking our guests out to a very high end restaurant for our “reception” instead of having a catered reception with dancing/band/dj/first dance etc. We’ll be having a private room, full open bar, great food and a cake but none of the other traditional elements. No dancing.
Our wedding will be in Vegas so people will have traveled to get there. My partner does not want to host other events like a brunch for people – just the best food we can find for one really great dinner for our guests. I’m worried people will not think it is “enough” even though the dinner will be so high end?
Also do you think you’d enjoy this rather than a traditional reception – I’m a foodie so the food is the most important thing to me, but I am curious to hear what others think.
Post # 3
We actually considered this option. We care a lot about the food and not so much about the dancing. The only reason we didn’t do it was the restuarant location we wanted did not have an outdoor space or private room. I think it’s a great idea as long as you’ll have your own private room. Also, you don’t have to pay for linens, etc. like bringing in a caterer.
There are plenty of places to go dancing in Vegas afterward if you want to!:-)
Post # 4
@arizonabride – that is what i was thinking too – we can always go dancing on our own but – do you think people would expect us to pay for them to go dancing too? That’s what I am wondering, if we have to host other events.
Post # 5
I think you could work it out so that people did not expect you to pay. It’s Vegas and you could say it’s a “No Host Afterparty”, right? Or maybe you could go somewhere where they do bottle service and just pay for the first bottle or minimum? I don’t know how many people you are expecting, but that could work.
Sorry about my typing! Good thing for the edit option!
Post # 6
I agree with arizona. It would be nice to have a no host afterparty for those you love to dance.
I would be bummed if it was somewhere else and no dancing. Just because, it would probably be a little boring. But, IT IS VEGAS. OMG. So I wouldn’t care about the reception–I can totally go out anywhere afterwards becasue well, it’s vegas and it doesn’t close…OMG!
So, I think you know what I voted for.
Post # 7
thx. i don’t even know if we’ll want to have any dancing even after (my partner says the afterparty only has two guests – me and him hahaha).
i just keep reading about people hosting all these events at destination weddings and I’m worried that people will think badly of us if we don’t do that. i have been to many weddings overseas and in other cities and never thought much about this but now I’m worried!
My partner wants to have one great dinner and blow our budget on that.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Alright, I hope I don’t bum you out with my opinion but honestly, I would be very disappointed if I went to a destination wedding and there was no dancing. But that’s just me. If you guys aren’t into dancing and if you feel your guests won’t care or expect it, then go for a fancy dinner! But personally, I feel like half the fun of going to a wedding is dancing with all your friends and family, to me that’s where the celebrating comes in…But it’s your wedding and your day so do what makes you happy!
Post # 9
what would you guys think if we got everyone discounted or we paid for passes to a club or something after the dinner?
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heinz Chapel Ceremony, Museum Reception
Wildstyle, I lived in Vegas for three years–there are PLENTY of options for people to get their dance on after the dinner!!! If you’re worried about providing enough for the guests, I do have an idea. At nearly all of the high-end clubs in Vegas, bottle service is an option, especially if you have a large party, arrange it in advance, or both. It’s basically where you get a private sit-down area and they bring you a few bottles of liquor and different mixers/garnishes. I think it usually costs about $500. I don’t know if you can find an extra $500 in the budget, but it would be an add-on to the dinner if you felt like you needed to do more.
PS–what restaurant are you going to?? There are so many incredible ones!
Post # 11
Go for it!!! This is almost exactly what we did (except in Chicago, not Vegas) — have amazing food, open bar, and no dancing — and seriously, everyone from our twenty-something friends to our older relatives raved about our wedding. (I mean, obviously people probably wouldn’t tell me if they were disappointed there was no dancing, but I don’t think they would have been as over-the-top in praising the reception if they’d been disappointed).
I think for our reception, it helped a bit that we had an afternoon reception, so people were probably less inclined to expect dancing anyway (and doing the meal in the afternoon instead of evening also helped with the costs). We also tried to include a fun activity — having a faux photobooth with digital camera and photo printer, with props set up — so people would have another reason to get up and mingle.
We also had some after-party type activities that we invited everyone to join us at — in our case, it was hanging out on the hotel rooftop deck and then going out to see fireworks from a boat off Navy Pier. I think inviting people to go out to a club/lounge afterwards is a great idea, and then anyone who wants to dance would probably enjoy it more anyway. Personally, I love dancing, but I feel like DJs at weddings tend to be cheesy and it’s hard to please everyone.
Anyway, long answer, but I really think the upshot for me was that, for your guests, if you provide amazing food, cake, and open bar (plus maybe one activity so people have an excuse to get out of their seats), they’ll have a great time.
Post # 12
I voted for go for it!
And here is why – Personally I LOVE to dance – I met my finace while dancing at a club so it just makes sense that at my wedding I will be the first one on the dance floor and the last one to leave!
However, this doesn’t sound like it is you or your fiance. As a civilized adult I also really enjoy a night out drinking, eating and talking with friends and that sounds more like what you are going for! It sounds wonderful to me and you can always have an after-party or suggest somewhere for guests to go and party afterward!
It sounds wonderful to me – so I say go for it!
Post # 13
Ok I’m sorry to burst your bubble but I went to a wedding just like this a few months ago in Vegas and I have to say it was a disappointment. We went to the ceremony and then to a very nice dinner, (delicious), but without the dancing and a few other wedding touches, it just didn’t feel like a wedding celebration. It just felt like a nice dinner. I think food is obviously great but the celebration part of a wedding comes with the dancing and the wedding touches, (first dance, cake cutting, speaches, slid show?, etc).
Post # 14
I voted for food =) Seriously … you have the very best dinners in Vegas! There is plenty of fun to get distracted by … you’ll be everywhere! Where is dinner? Wynns new Encore hotel has the best food ever!
Post # 15
I’ve been to a wedding like this and it was very special and elegant. I think its different (in a good way) from the typical wedding.
Like others have been saying, there are TONS of options for guests to party afterwards! I think it would be great if you set up a “no host after party” — you don’t have to attend, just let your guests know that there is a room at a club near the reception reserved for them.
In the end, its your reception and your guests will be happy to be there to celebrate with you. Your wedding isn’t about pleasing everyone!
Post # 16
I think the hardest part of the one hour time frame, in my mind, would be how short a time it would mean spending with you guys. Yes, destination is great fun for the sake of destination, but if I want to go to Vegas just to go, I wouldn’t wait around for a wedding. If I’m going for your wedding, I would appreciate having at least a few minutes to chat with you at the reception – so if you’re eating for half an hour and only socializing for half an hour, that’s not a lot of time per-guest (unless you’ve only got six guests, haha).