- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2009
Hi bees I am a regular here but I would like to keep this anonymous due to my 5 yr old involvement !
Well like I just said I have a 5 yr old daughter and her father and I never married I finished are relationship 3 yrs ago. Were very young when we for together and I got pregnat at 15 ( he was 22) leave my country an move here with him and have a Dirty Delete here right when we got here he changed a lot he didn’t want to help with the baby or help me with my school ( when I move out my parents house we agree I would finish high school here in the USA after the baby was born and work part time to Help with the bills . He didn’t help me I run away from home with out my parents permission so where we used to live my parents opened a investigation and if he move back home he would get arrested even if these was 5 1/2 years ago Because I was a minor and he took me out the country .
Well we have are baby he didn’t help my dad kinda stop fighting with us and visited us when Dirty Delete. was 1 my dad sister and mom came together to USA for 3 weeks my dad saw the condition where we lived and how much I was working when I was 16 and the I didn’tfinished my school and all of that so my father offer his help to take back home with my daughter and pay for my studies etc ! But if I did this my baby father had to get arrested and charge and deported to my country with me i declined dad offer !
So couple of moms after my family left my ex started to be verbally and phisical abusive to me and cheat with one American girl spoked to her and she and him confirmed this I forgive him because of are Dirty Delete buy I didn’t wanted to be with him anymore I saved for 2 years we bought 2 cars but because I was under age everything was under his name I trusted him with all are money and cars I naive I was only 16-17 st the time when I turned 18 and I was avaliable todo rverething on my own I decides to leave him not only because of the abuse or the cheating but because of the controlling and jealous person he was I kick him out are apartment he left thinking I would forgive himagain and try tbecome back but i didn’t left him by that time 3 weeks when by and he did not pick up are Dirty Delete AND refuse to see her because he said the seeing her was like seen me and this was to much for him ! So by this time car was under his name and he refuse to sign the car over to me , I have some male friend the always help me with work stuffaid if my car break he would pick me up and always was around when I need it 2 months when by and my ex pick up rverething from the apartmenwere took everething we have computer tv expensive furniture the only left was the living room and my bed and my Dirty Delete CRIB she was 2 at that time ! He even took the car away from me and took all the money i. the bank account by that time I didn’t care I only wanted him away from me so after he pick up everething he decide that day he wanted to see are Dirty Delete I. Was happy because he is her father and I want him to have a relationship with her , the same day I decided to day my friend the always was with me to the movies he has giving a car for free beacause my ex took mine ! So we started dating , I didn’t know my ex was following me and after I got out the movies and when back home he was there waiting for me by this time he still has a key from my apartment an he still was in the contract so I could not charging with trespassing he did not have are kid with him he started pulling my clothes and try to force me to have sex with him so I asked him why he was acting like that he said he saw me and all that I exPlained to himThe I was single and I would continue to date my now husband well I was stupid enough not charge him I did call the police and make a report but not charge him because he was my daughter father and I don’t want him to go to jail ( I know I was to stupid)
We then started a battle for custody my being alone in this country and him having the support of 7 brother and sister all of then with money I have to call my parents for money for a lawyer well all the stress send me at 18 to the hospital with some severe problems I have to stay there for 4 day after this we decided to make a deal trough thecourt sharingcustody but DDleaving with me and he will get visitation and I took only have of the child support i was assigned this way he would stop fighting for are daughter !
Well I married my friend and her dad was not happy and the problems staarted again he did not see are Dirty Delete Allthat much onlyevery other Sunday and he will send to his sister not even spending time with her I didn’t bother to saidanything because that was his decision if he wanted to not spend time with her that was his choice when we signEd the agreement he did not wanted a set schedule so he did not a responsibility ( I was stupid signing the agreement this way i know )
Fast forward to the present on this 2 last year the my daughter has been going To school he never appeared there until yesterday andtone the he got married a month ago he want me to give his wife authority to do wherever with my child only because now want to be the father for her (only because of his wife ). He did not ask me to put HIM at the school papers or medical papers he want HIS WIFE as the authority because according to him she now is her stepmom sO she have all the rights to take decision !! I Complete understand him asking for his right but not her !!
On this case my husband has been there for my Dirty Delete and has always been in Schiller activities he is the one drop her off every morning and I am the one who picked her up every doctorappointment we has been there I have try to ask her dad for help and he never wanted to help beacause he was too busy !! Even when my husband has Been a father for my daughter ( she even call him dad ) my husband has never ask me or tell me the has rights as a father when he is not her father he respect the I am the mother and she has her father andevery decision about is only are concern !! Her tht even threatened to take to court to ask for right for his wife this is so stupid and stressing !! Pls tell me what should I do !! I know she don’t have any rights !! But he want to force me to have her in any paperfor from about are daughter !