(Closed) Very upset…friend is booking venue 3 weeks before my wedding

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

So have they booked it, knowing that you’re not ok with it?

I can see why you’d be upset, but remember in all likelihood, you’ll have different themes, different guests, and a whole different vibe to the day! The last 11 months you’ve put in will clearly show, and everyone will respect the attention to detail that follows.

Try not to let it get you down. If they have done that, then there is no point in upsetting yourself as it’s pointless; you can’t change it. Just focus on the elements of your day that will make it special for you and your Fiance.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I agree with the PP.  Just because the venue is the same doesn’t mean the wedding will be a replica.  Your wedding will be a reflection of you and your Fiance.  It will have personalized touches that wouldn’t work at the friend wedding a few weeks earlier.  That being said, I can see how that would be annoying.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I think the pp’s make a good point, most thing will still be very different about your weddings. Plus, maybe it can be a good thing. You’ll see how weddings are done there so you can make a note of what you do and don’t want for your wedding.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I guess I would be a little annoyed, but there’s nothing really you can do.  The two weddings will be totally different and like PP said, you’ll be able to spot issues and fix them before your wedding.

My cousin is getting married at my venue and I’m actually super-excited for her ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I would be upset, too ๐Ÿ™  Is it the type of venue that has different rooms/ areas for receptions?  Our place has 4 different rooms with different feels/ atmospheres.  If not, I agree with PP’s that all of the fun details and planning you’re doing will definitely make it unique ๐Ÿ™‚  One good thing about getting married there after them is you’ll see what their wedding is like first.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I can understand how you would feel but in the grand scheme of things, after you are married, I’m sure you won’t think about them booking the place and your friends and family going to the same venue three weeks apart, but of your special day and how you married the man of your dreams.  Best of luck.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why would he ask if it would bother you if he was just going to go ahead and do it anyways?? Anyways, the other bees are right, your day will still be unique but I 100% understand your frustration, I would be really upset too!

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would be a little annoyed, but remember you do not own nor can control what others do. So what if they are using the same venue.  They have a right just as anyone else to use the same venue as you.  The big picture you are celebrating getting married to the man you love. Stop sweating the little things

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i am kinda in the same boat as you….We have been engaged for about a year and half and my boss got engaged on 10-10-10. her fiance said not to start wedding planning or anything like that…he wasn’t ready. Fiance and I finally decided a date and announced it on xmas eve. i broughta wedding magazine to work and now she decides to start wedding planning the next day. comes up to me and says “you guys should do 9-10-11, and i said no, i want 9-17-11 last week of summer.” so 3 days later comes and she say “FI decided he wants 9-10-11 and said if you get mad ur not a real friend.” i wasnt mad at all! it is the week before mine and this is her 2nd wedding. she has been copying everything i do and i couldn’t enjoy talking about my wedding plans at work anymore!! Thennnnnnn, my Maid/Matron of Honor lets me know 2 weeks ago that she and her Fiance decided on 9-10-11 too and i am a bridesmaid….it’s a 5 hour drive the weekend before our wedding!!!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with PP.  All weddings are different, different colors, different flowers, different food etc.  I wouldn’t be sad or upset I’d be flattered that I was able to provide a friend with a venue they also love.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Dear friends of ours booked the same venue we did, and their wedding is a month and a half before ours. When my mom asked if I was upset, I thought about it and realized that since I will be attending their wedding, I can also use it as a recon mission, seeing what goes well where in the space, any changes I should make in my plans and how people are situated. Once I realized this might be a great help to my planning (on top of celebrating my friend’s special day), I quickly realized she just wanted to have a nice wedding like I did when I chose the place ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Someone in my fiance’s family just recently booked at our venue one week before our wedding! I don’t know what makes THEM want to do that… I’d want to be in a different place at least, just so it feels special and not so familiar but trust me, everyone’s is different and it won’t be ALL the same people attending both!

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

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