(Closed) Vicious Sister engaged on the same day and is trying to compete with me! HELP!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, I would just consider all of the facts. Your sister has issues, clearly. I would just recognize that she feels she needs to act out in this way because she is insecure. Pick another date for your wedding and move on. In addition, tell your parents not to share details of your wedding with her.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh. Wow. Normally I see these posts and I am appalled that girls get so easily jealous.

This is a whole other level. From what you’ve said, I dont think the relationship will last to the alter (more to the jail cell), and if he has truly wrecked the lives of so many people, I doubt their wedding would be well attended to take away from any of your thunder.

Drugs and mental illness are the worst. And my only advice is to let them win. Pick a new date and dont tell your sister (and promise your family to do the same). It looks like she wants to go first, so pick a November date.

 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I would ignore her and keep on planning.  Hopefully by October they won’t have wedding money because he’ll spend it all on drugs and she’ll get pissed and leave – then their wedding plans will dissolve, he will disappear off to jail, and your sister will grow some self-esteem and re-start her life.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would not worry about this at all. She apparently has mental issues and he apparently has drug/character issues.

Unless your parents are planning on shelling out a lot of money for her SECOND wedding, they won’t have the money or fortitude to plan a party, much less the wedding.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with the other bees. It doesn’t really sound like this relationship is going to “go the distance” I would pick a later date, and not worry about it. Good luck with planning and congrats on getting engaged!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Sounds like a mess. A mess you can avoid by tuning it out and not taking it personally. I feel really bad for your sister. She must be very beaten down by this relationship. I hope she finds the strength to overcome this physical demon but also her clear emotional demons.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Change yours to the day before hers..

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

theres no way  they are actually going to get married! and your date is october 2014? I seriously doubt they will last that long.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh Man.

 

All I can say is Forget about her! If shes Engaged– shes engaged.. what can you do really? You guys dont haev the best relationship so talking to her really wouldnt make a difference.. Just enjoy your engagement and forget about someone trying to steal  your spotlight. your ENGAGED! ( Congrats! )

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree on all the “ignore the BS” points, but I would move my wedding up a week. Maybe that’s just me being a little immature. Have nobody tell her the date. If she finds out the date and moves hers up again, let her have it. Whatever, people will probably be more interested in yours, and they’ll be in town already! I hope she realises how horrible this guy is before too long. It seems like if she spends the next 8 months trying to outdo you, but he keeps stealing all her money, she’s gonna end up pretty miserable.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards

Do you serously think her wedding is going to happen? This person seems so radically unstable that I wouldn’t even worry about her.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@mink:  I was going to say the same thing!

Post # 16
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Honey bee

That sucks. I wouldn’t worry though, everyone would obviously know what this is. Her engagement will probably fall apart before she gets married to this creep. And I kind of hope it does for her sake.

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