(Closed) Victorian etiquette book on weddings (just for fun)

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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squirrelyone :  Hmm probably only if you’re wearing white silk but no “indulgences” such as diamonds lol!

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Honey bee

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squirrelyone :  I’ve read an article before (I can’t remember the name) about Victorian era weddings that a couple should marry the same day as the grooms birthday because it’s considered the luckiest wedding date for the couple.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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squirrelyone :  you don’t even need an open bar as guests should exhibit “Perfect self-control”

I’m sure that relates to not getting totally hammered too lol

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socalgirl1689 :  Interesting!

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Newbee

I am doing a Victorian Gothic wedding. What I am wearing and how things are to be decorated are heavily influenced by the Victorian times. If I were to follow proper etiquette I wouldn’t be allowed to go to my own wedding haha. I am probably going to cry a lot. I am not wearing white satin. I plan on wearing a lot of jewelry. That is really interesting to read what they believed to be proper. 

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Bumble bee

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squirrelyone :  You can “get away with ditching your party halfway through” if you are the guests of honour and someone else is the hostess. In fact, guests of honour *ought* to depart early, since no-one else is supposed to leave before they do. If you are the hostess, though, you have duties: one of which is to say goodnight to your guests as they leave.

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

Gosh all these rules.. so exhausting

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Buzzing bee

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vintageluna :  I’d like to see pics of this wedding 🙂

I threw the book in my cart on Amazon. I need information on Victorian weddings for research. So thanks!

 

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Newbee

 

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VictorianChick :  I will be glad to share photos with you! I am getting married in June so there is a little ways to go but not to long. 

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

After watching many of my much older relatives marry in the 70’s with bright orange Maid/Matron of Honor and powder blue tuxes, I decided for my wedding to have a Victorian theme – that way people wouldn’t look back and say ‘yikes’ at the outfits. 

We had an outdoor garden wedding at an estate. I wore a lace dress (not satin!), and I did wear pale roses in my hair (alas, no orange blossoms). We had horseshoes and croquet for everyone to play after the ceremony (I wanted some entertainment, and figured it was something everyone could do even though they were dressed up). 

And, funny enough, we did leave unannouced in the middle of our reception. My hubby is very shy, and didn’t want people making a big deal, so we snuck out about 10 pm. 

Little did we know we followed so many Victorian rules!

just for fun… my Maid/Matron of Honor (standing) and I… 

 

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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2018

 LOVE THIS! Totally buying a copy for my Victorian wedding research!! <3<3<3

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