Post # 1
Long sorry, just need to rant about something that happened yesterday. So I get coupons in the mail occassionally to Victoria’s Secret for a free panty and $10 off a bra. I always take advantage of the panty deal and sometimes I get the bra. I wear a 38D in their bras, which is about as big as they go in most styles. I use extenders so they aren’t as tight around my ribcage (I’m a size 16/XL for reference).
Anyways, I go in yesterday and I was the only one in the store, so immediately am attacked by a bored sales person. I can understand this as I used to work retail and you’re supposed to greet the customer. So I tell the saleswoman I have the coupons and she directs me to the table where I can get the free panty. She then adds “They’re one size fits all,” and sort of body checks me (like the whole full body look over and mentally trying to guess what I weigh and how the heck I can fit in their stuff). I’m feeling a bit off put at this point, but free is free, and so I make my panty selection. The whole time she is hovering over my shoulder, and as soon as a pair is in my hands, she asks me if I would like to see their bras.
I tell her I usually wear their bras, and she asks which, but I can’t remember which style. She then asks me to show her my strap and she’d recognize it. Uhmm….okay. So I awkwardly push my work blouse aside exposing a neon orange bra strap (don’t judge it was on clearance!). She then declares its a very sexy bra, and asks “when’s the last time you got measured?”. Maybe I’m just being overly sensitve, but it sort of seemed like she wanted to measure me and tell me that their bras won’t come in my size. Her tone was definitely snooty.
Embarrased, I tell her that I always take the same size in their bras and use extenders to help them fit better, which she then goes “Okay makes sense now.” At the same time I was looking through a drawer of bras and then couldn’t get it to shut because they had stuffed it so full. And I had to apologize to her for messing up the display.
I was so mortified I practically ran to the perfume department. There I was attacked by a different sales person, but atleast you can’t be a judgeypants about perfume. Sigh. I faked interest in some new scent and then hurried to the check out with my free panty and got the hell out of there.
I’ve never had such a bad experience in a store and felt so bad about myself as I headed out of there. I’m sure I’m not their ideal customer, but I spend my fair share there and now I don’t want to go back. Not only did I feel judged, but I also felt forced to divulge my lady bit info to this pushy stick figure woman. Have any of you had a similarly bad shopping experience?
Post # 3
Screw that! I revel in the joys of online shopping and owning my own measuring tape 😉
I’m sorry you had a sucky judgy time 🙁
Post # 4
That stinks =(
I’ve never had that bad of a visit, but I ALWAYS feel uncomfortable when their sales girls start hovering. I wish they would hire nicer people! Also, every single time I have been to VS they MUST measure me. Seriously? My size has always been the same, I do not need you to measure me AGAIN!
Post # 5
A lot of times people are rude and unreasonable and judgemental! For no good reason.
Dont blame Victoria Secret and stop going there because of that awful lady.
You are sexy and beautiful no matter what your size, let noone tell you otherwise!
Im sorry that happened to you, but you go there all the time and I really hope you go back some day (maybe to a different location!)
Post # 6
I am sorry you had such a sucky visit. I refuse to purchase any of their stuff anymore. It is crappy made now days. The Limited used to own them and at that time their stuff was made better. Now days it seems like their stuff falls apart so easily.
Post # 7
I’m totally sorry that this bummed you out. I obviously wasn’t there but from your post it sounds like she was just bored/trying to be helpful. Salespeople are supposed to be able to look at you and guess what size you need. Or offer to help find your size. It’s part of their job. So I wouldn’t take it as judgement. But it obviously came off as offensive to you so I’m sorry. But don’t let it sour you forever!
Post # 8
Awww poor girl! That is awful!! So so sorry you had that experience. You should definitely call and say something about that. If she behaved that way towards you, no doubt she is doing it to other undeserving ladies. I know how you feel though…they don’t usually have bras in my size there(Damn you, double DD’s!) but I do go in there to get some panties from time to time.
Post # 9
I feel for you, I hate going to VS even though I love their stuff. OMG I didn’t even know you could get a bra extender, I am like a 39 but since all VS has is 38 I hardly buy bras there anymore. I have had some mean salespeople tell me that I am too big to shop there and that I should visit Lane Bryant.
Post # 10
I totally refuse to purchase VS bras. I wear a 34Dirty Delete, and their Dirty Delete doesn’t even come CLOSE to fitting me. Their sizing is ridiculous.
Sorry you had such a bad experience, OP. I recommend going to a nice lingerie store, or even a Bloomingdale’s or Nordstrom, and getting properly fitted for a bra. You should be able to find something that fits so that you don’t have to mess with extenders.
ETA: I get my panties there, and they ALWAYS ask me to get measured. One time I did it, just for laughs, because I knew they wouldn’t have my size. The salesgirl got kind of nervous and said there was one style I could “try.” I said no thanks 😉
Post # 11
Sounds like she was judgmental, but don’t condemn her just for asking to measure you – they always do that to me! It’s their “would you like fries with that?” (ETA: I’m 120 lbs, Size 34A/B)
Post # 12
@candykiss: I feel for ya…
Another Size 16 lady here… BUT I gotta say at my age (50+) I don’t let these things get to me quite so much.
I was in Victoria Secret yesterday, looking at Bras & Undies myself… as well as wanting to see the cute Robe that they have that says “Bride” on the back… thinking I’ll wear it on my Wedding Day to get ready, and then on my honeymoon.
Often times in lingerie stores, I too get the “once over” although… I am never quite sure if it because of my size (16 – XL – 40B / or 38C with an extender as well… size depends on the cut of the bra)… OR if the “raised eyebrow” is because of my age…
Probably more because of my age… lol, there is a “feeling” out there that us more “mature” women should be shopping for “Granny Panties” in the local five & dime or a department store.
Thank goodness, I don’t believe that and am secure in finding my happiness in a sexy bra or colourful panty underneath my clothing… great lingerie rocks no matter one’s age IMO.
PS… Can relate to the previous poster who said they were a 39… as that is what I am technically as well. Sometimes it does suck to be an “odd size” vs the standard evens which Bras are sized by.
Post # 13
The people at VS always ask to measure me. I’m 125lbs and a 34-36A. It really doesn’t have anything to do with your size, hon, they are TRAINED to ask everyone that.
Please don’t judge the “stick figure” woman any more than you want her judge the fuller-figured woman. That’s really not fair. I’m sorry you had a lousy shopping experience and don’t blame you for not wanting to shop where you feel uncomfortable, but her asking about measurements was not indicative of some sort of prejudice against you because of your size. They are always supposed to ask.
Post # 14
I think only Barbie is their ideal body type! Sometimes I see their commercials and feel really bad about myself (those girls are HOT), but Darling Husband just looks at me and says, ‘you’re way hotter babe!’ and then I thank VS for reminding me why I married my awesome guy. 😀 Even if he tells me little white lies, haha!
Don’t let that one girl ruin your experience or pride in yourself; she was bored and inconsiderate. Keep getting those free panties and discounted bras, if you like them. And I agree with PP, they always ask me about being measured too.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
They’re also really snotty to the small breasted women, if it makes you feel any better. I’m around a 32/34A… “I don’t think we have anything in YOUR size.” Thanks, I’ll take my little boobs elsewhere.
Post # 16
@sweetcrackers: Sorry sweetcrackers, don’t take offense! Just a rant. It wasn’t so much what she said, it was how she said it and the way she was looking at me. If someone had recorded the session, for “quality assurance” it would have passed with flying colors. It’s just one of those things where actions speak louder than words. Was more in her body language toward me. Maybe she was having a bad day, or it was the end of her shift, but as a full figured gal, I felt really uncomfortable, and don’t like advertising in public the fact that I have a bra extender on or showing off my orange bra straps.