- 2 years ago
- Wedding: October 2020
My fiance’s uncle is a wedding videographer. He’s video’d everybody’s wedding in the family, basically his services have always been offered as a gift to the couple. Now he hasn’t offered yet, but I know that he will eventually. He’s already mentioned a couple times when wedding stuff comes up, “keep me in mind” blah blah, and I’ve just kind of laughed and shrugged it off. The problem is that I really don’t care to have a videographer present at the wedding. We already have a photographer that will be there, and that’s all I care to have. We’re having 60 guests tops, and that’s all family and very close friends. I’m doing everything I can to keep this very intimate, and it’s not your traditional wedding, ceremony and reception will be in a restaurant banquet room. (We wanted to go to the courthouse just fiance and I but that’s another story). So basically I don’t feel the need to have a video of our wedding, and I don’t care to have the video posted on social media either (as he does with all his videos), if I wanted you to see and be a part of our wedding, you would’ve been invited.
Am I being crazy, or even ungrateful? Should I just take the gift of a wedding videographer and let it be? Or do I speak up? I’ve tried to talk to fiance about it, but he’s said that his uncle will get butthurt if we decline his services, and that if I don’t want it, I’m the one that’s gonna have to talk to him. I don’t want to rock the boat before I’m even an official member of their family. I tried to explain that it would be a chance for his uncle to sit down and actually enjoy a wedding for once, rather than be working, but fiance says he enjoys it and it’s not “work” to him. I’m secretly hoping that he’ll end up being booked with another wedding on our date, so I can get out of it that way