- 3 years ago
Sorry if this is super long. Originally I had thought that I did not want a videographer for our wedding, and that I would just have someone use a nicer camera and stick it on a tripod to record our ceremony. My Fiance didn’t want a videographer at first, but seems to be okay with having video of the ceremony after we had talked about it more. My parents are paying for the wedding, and my mom said we should get a videographer, for the ceremony, our first dance, father/daugter dance, speeches/toasts… She said that we’d want to have it for the future, to show our own children. Meanwhile I have never seen video of her wedding (I realize converting tapes to digital files are more complicated)
I am a bit torn about it. I definitely want a recording of our ceremony, and I would love to capture some other moments I listed above. I do NOT need recordings of the whole wedding. I don’t want some cheezy music video. I just want the content.
The wedding venue is going to be a tight fit for the seated dinner/dancing space considering how many guests we will have. We are going to probably have a much smaller dance floor than I would like, but this is what we’ve planned so we can use just this one space for the dinner/dancing. Having a videographer separate (photographer does not do video) from the photographer and her second could make it difficult given the small space for getting all the shots we want. The photographry is more important.
Another thing is that the wedding will be in the evening, in the fall, so there will be no natural light after the ceremony. For video, I know they usually have someone running around with a giant light, and the cameraman with a giant camera, getting in people’s faces and adding a harsh light to the space. I remember this was the case at my brother’s wedding. The videographer would often come around when we were dancing and almost blind us with light, and I’d get a little weirded out having someone recording me.
We do NOT want this interrupting the flow of the party and the experience for us or our guests. Fiance works in the event industry and has worked weddings in the past, and said he does not want the bright lights being carried around and shined on people (or on US) to maybe result in 30 seconds of content we’ll see later on.
We are getting marriedd 11/2017, so we have time to come to a final decision. Fiance knows some others in the wedding industry that could do the ceremony video, but I have a feeling my mother is going to dig her heels in about having video of more. My parents ARE paying so I do know they get a say, I am just surprised they want to pour more money in because they had such a terrible experience with a photographer/videographer, they realize spending so much and getting every little thing isn’t worth it. I know they want as many memories to keep of this special day, and I do as well. I just don’t want those moments to be spoiled by bright lights and a camera man being around me all the time.
What was your experience with a videographer? Was it worth it to get ceremony and reception, or just the ceremony? What was it like for you as a guest at a wedding with a videographer (in the evening)? What can I say to my parents about our desire to only record the ceremony?